"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Still honing skills: Should I ask out a woman even if I am not interested?

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I am still beginning as a DJ, and a few times I have had women come on to me, and I would be thinking to myself "Well this is a perfect setup to asking her out for coffee," and yet I don't because I don't feel that I am wasting her time if I don't think I am interested.

My question is - is it better to go for it just so the process becomes easier for me or is it against some ethic to waste her time?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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As you go on you will soon see that women will (or try) to waste lots and lots of your time. Go for the practice. It is good for your confidence and it is better to practice on someone you aren't interested in rather then the HB.
 
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Evo-Psych said:
As you go on you will soon see that women will (or try) to waste lots and lots of your time. Go for the practice. It is good for your confidence and it is better to practice on someone you aren't interested in rather then the HB.
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Yea it is practice for them to waste your time. That way if they bag a poor schmuck as a husband one day they are well prepared.

But the question is....

IF you meet Mrs. Right one day will you be prepared... Ha young Grasshopper?
 
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zerocelsius, I'm just not sure what you're trying to say. Are you saying I should or shouldn't "go for it"?
 
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You know that a girl is meant to be a addition to your life, a plus to your day, right?

So even though you might not be interested in this chick, but she seems cool enough, how about this, why not? You might have a amazing connection, find out she's got a great personality and end result, you could hook up.

All for 20 minutes and $4...what's the waste in that?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Just stick to approaching and working on your conversation skills with these women. No need to extend it to a date, it'll cause more trouble than its worth.
 
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I use to ask out any chick even if I was moderately interseted in her.


Don't. Sure, approach them and work your game. but mediocre attraction to her leads to mediocre dates cause you really don't care, and that just means you wasted time and probably money.

focus on the chicks you want, and practice on the chicks you don't.
 
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You ask a girl out because you want to spend time with her. So why would you invite her out if you're uninterested? Has she got a harem of beautiful girl friends?
 
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