"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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VIVAlasVEGASBaby

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Having problems Don Juaning? Still isn’t quite all together? Look at your situation. Think about today. How could you have been a “better” Don Juan? There is a state that you can reach that will bring a smile to everyone’s face. When you have that radiating energy of happiness and friendliness, it becomes so easy. At the beginning it is difficult to hold on to and keep this state every day; your Don Juaning fluctuates, and therefore cannot get a girl attracted to you. See the problem?

My experience with this has been this;

I wanted the easy way out. I wanted people to be attracted to me, but I didn’t want to do any work. I just complained and moaned about it. Then one day I realized what I was doing. Don Juaning is difficult as first. It actually takes discipline and commitment. Reading posts countless weeks will not turn you into a Don Juan. They will definitely help you, but you and only you can achieve the state of Don Juan.

In Buddhism the key is achieving enlightenment. They say enlightenment is like a target. It is a target that the closer you get to hitting the bull’s-eye without hitting it dead on, the farther away you become from enlightenment. Think of it this way. You must hit that bulls-eye dead on otherwise you drift and drift without understanding why.

You have all the information you need. I would actually suggest to stop reading the bible and just remember that there is no easy way. You will not transform into a Don Juan while sitting in front of your computer. You must go the way you know you must, regardless of anything. You know the path, I don’t care how scary, painful, or long it is. Go for it. You know what you want, but more importantly, you know how to get it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So pimp its scary

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"There is a state that you can reach that will bring a smile to everyone’s face. When you have that radiating energy of happiness and friendliness, it becomes so easy. At the beginning it is difficult to hold on to and keep this state every day; your Don Juaning fluctuates, and therefore cannot get a girl attracted to you."
I believe that DJ'ing as well as in any acquired skill, the process is not cumulative... as sweet as that would be. Rather, the process is closer to taking a few steps, then getting rocked back a step or two... then getting stuck at a new 'barrier', then after realizing that the barrier exists, you figure out a way to plow through that barrier; and in doing so, you find yourself at a new level of skill.

A concrete example of this would be working out : When you first start, the progress comes easy. Then, you get to a point where no matter what you do, it just isn't working out anymore. Problem : Lack of intensity. Once you see this barrier, and realize that adding intensity will probably help, you add sets... a week later, you realize that you can go up in weight and are that much stronger.

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Back to your post though... I really agree with most of what you had to say, and the parts that I disagree with are really too minor to even bother with.

"Action is the founding key to ALL success" - Tony Robbins

Those that do not act... AFC's; I am here to tell you that the first step is the hardest. After you get over that first hurdle, get rejected and step back up to the plate anyway, you have just got the ball rolling, and getting the ball rolling is all that you need.
 

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You are damn smart/wise man.
It has been a while. How are you doing?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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