"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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*Still* exhibiting AFC traits - a kind of FR

mtnkng

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So...pulled my profile from the online dating sites. Got a coupla first dates...one possible plate, possibly another, but she's on hold as a flake.

Got interest from several women met in the field, mostly older ladies that are HB7 or higher....

The dreaded "You are so cute." and "You are adorable" - Maybe something to build on.

Had a date last nite with an online. Exhanged several emails and about 2 hours logged time on the phone prior to first date.
Met at a restaurant. Cute. Liked her looks, big rump. Lots of IOIs. High IL. Proceeded to walk to theater to catch whatever move was playing. Kiss closed in the parking lot there. Lots of mackin and groping in the theater (probably saw maybe 25 minutes of Incredible Hulk). Spent another hour making out and groping by her car after the movie. Totally wanted f-close me, but she doesnt on first dates - Im definitely ok with this.

Day after (today) - The AFC returns. Too much damn texting while at work (she's a teacher, single mom, off for the summer, kids are away for the week with dad/ex). Hour long convo on the phone - set up date - dinner and live music tomorrow nite with possiblity of landing at my house. Then, figured there's a band I really wanna catch on Sunday - bought the tix and we're going to that.

I basically
A) returned way too much on interest
B) talked/texted too much
C) Setup rapid fire dates, one after another for the weekend.

Too bad....I actually dig this one. But, I think I can still recover as long as her interest remains high. And I know I risk that with these rapid fire dates.

So....what Im thinkin....I gotta pull back as much as possible between these dates - little or no contact.

The good thing is....I think I got a little game going on during the date. Spontaneous, fun, engaging....and apparently "cute". Perhaps enough masculinity and sexuality is lurking to retain some interest. Maybe Im a "sleeper" - the cute/adorable guy who does well physically (repeat positive critiques on mackin).

The bad thing is....lettin pvssy get my emotions going. I am leading and dominating....but Im not keepin the emotions in check and losing the power....

At the very least, I wanna keep this one around long enough to keep improving and testing these skills. IF they don't improve, it'll end and I lose a proving ground. So....I'll get the other two potential plates up and running and keep working the field (where I seem to have more success than online).

Go easy on me....this is the first active week post divorce AND the rebound BPD relationship (now post 3 mos). Still lots of sh!t to unlearn and learn.

(oh and one other hitch - the date last nite; more than likely the teacher of the exBPDs daughter. Im keepin an eye on this.)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Funny I am going through the same thing and when I realized it I pulled back. The girl was too cool and brought on good conversations. I mean she was texting all day and calling to talk all night. Good thing she went away on vacation for 5 days now I can set back and get myself together. Good things I got some girls coming in from out of state, now I can play with them for a week.
 

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If you're active enough, and remain active, she has to understand. Just don't turn into her little brother.
 
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