"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sticky Stiuation w/ New Girl

omgwtfm8

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I started talking with HB9 while me and my ex we're talking still. HB9 was dealing with her ex too. Me and HB9 were hitting it off nicely until one lonely night i hung out with my ex. HB9 heard about me and my ex and hung out with her ex because she was afraid i'll be gone.

So now finally I completely got rid of my ex. Told her to never call me again (long story short: she cheated 4 times, etc) I'm never going to see my ex again.

Me and HB9 have been talking the whole time while we were dealing with our exes. But now mines out of the picture, hers isn't.

Her ex is telling her that's it's gonna be better and we can do this. But he's talking to like 4 chicks, banging girls left and right, and lies to HB9 about it.

HB9 is confused and might be afraid of change and doesn't know.

How should i act during the time she doesn't know what she wants?
All of HB9's friend know that it won't ever work out, her ex has been slutting it up, etc.

People don't change and her ex isn't going to change for her.

This is just my side project. I'm talking to a couple other HBs.

So how should i act in this situation?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This is just my side project. I'm talking to a couple other HBs.
And you're mad because she's talking to another guy?

Doesn't irony suck?

Me and HB9 have been talking the whole time
Just because you're "talking" doesn't mean you stop seeing other girls!! (Though you shouldn't talk to that nasty ex, anyway.)

She ain't your gf. Don't push her to stop talkin to her ex - yet.

Wait until you get more serious. Don't try to rush in to a monogamous relationship with this girl. That's her job. When she's your gf, you can tell her to respect you by breakin it off with her ex.
 

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We don't mention our exes when we're with each other or talking. We just know what goes on behind the scenes.
 

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Lying and deceit before you are even going out.. I LOVE where this is going!!!
And did anyone else expect a different kind of story with "Sticky Situation"???
 

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Didn't you just break up with your ex?

Why are you already thinking of getting into another relationship.


Personally, I would take a break. Be free for a while and take it easy. Meet some women and just have some fun. Don't jump into another relationship right away. Just chill.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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dude, if you were unsure of a situation or down about something or confused about something how would you want someone to treat you? try taking her to do something fun to get her mind off it (don't specifically tell her its to get her mind off it if thats what you were thinking) thats what I would want. Once your out having fun, it will be off her mind, and you can proceed as normal. when i say out having fun, i mean like the carnival or batting cages or go cart racing - something literally fun - dinner and movies isn't fun (i try to tell my homies this) - they pass the time between lays with a steady girl when there is nothing fun to do, ya feel me niggs?
 

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Sweep her off her feet and she'll forget about the sucker.

Be the man she's dreamed about and all this struggle will come to an end and you can hold her in your arms with no other worries.

How do you sweep her off her feet?
Be the prince she's read about in stories for little girls...
Be strong, bold, LEAD... believe in yourself...
Care about her... get to really know her... Know what she wants from life... know what she is really about... understand her... make her feel understood... give her all the affection and attention she needs...

and she will reward you back...
she will forget everyone else... and sex is very close from there...
after that there's no turning back... she will be marvelled by the prince she has found...

if this doesn't work out as fast as you need to save this situation ... at least other HB'es will enjoy how valuable you are to their lives...

take care and act now!
 

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drummer said:
Lying and deceit before you are even going out.. I LOVE where this is going!!!
And did anyone else expect a different kind of story with "Sticky Situation"???
It's not lying, We both know not to talk about exes because we need to change, move on, and talking about our exes would kill attraction.
 
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