"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sticky Situation

Jug_head_man

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Hey doods, so I recently graduated uni and i've had to move home for a bit while looking for work. Seeing as how play is hard to come by while being in a small town i've been doing some searching online. I came across an old crush from freshman year. I met her through a friend and we had instant chemistry but on the day I went to picker her up from her uni, she made an excuse and bailed. We basically stopped talking after that and shes currently single. 2 years ago I went to her university town and hit her up after a house party but she didnt seem like she was all that into it.

My question is how do I got about initiating contact with her without being creepy? I've tried to pull on facebook before but they always end up deleting me or not responding to my messages. I lost her number so thats not an option. My distant friend is best friends with her but I think hes got a major crush so I cant ask him. This girl is the type you'd marry not f*ck & run so im trying to treat her with respect.

Input?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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Grow some balls and meet women in your city, I don't care how small your town is, you should be able to find women.
 

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Jug_head_man said:
Hey doods, so I recently graduated uni and i've had to move home for a bit while looking for work. Seeing as how play is hard to come by while being in a small town i've been doing some searching online. I came across an old crush from freshman year. I met her through a friend and we had instant chemistry but on the day I went to picker her up from her uni, she made an excuse and bailed. We basically stopped talking after that and shes currently single. 2 years ago I went to her university town and hit her up after a house party but she didnt seem like she was all that into it.

My question is how do I got about initiating contact with her without being creepy? I've tried to pull on facebook before but they always end up deleting me or not responding to my messages. I lost her number so thats not an option. My distant friend is best friends with her but I think hes got a major crush so I cant ask him. This girl is the type you'd marry not f*ck & run so im trying to treat her with respect.

Input?
She bailed on you the first time you went to hang with her. Then you tried to call her when you were in town for a house party, and she didn't seem up for it.

And now you're talking about how she's "the type you'd marry" and you're trying to treat her with respect.

So here's my first question...and I want you to answer it - Is this a joke?

I don't care how great you THOUGHT the chemistry was 200 years ago. It resulted in jack s**t. Maybe it's time to throw this one back in the lake, buddy.
 

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Hahaha, I understand what you're saying loud and clear. I come from a town of 600 and am in loan debt but you're right, thats no excuse.

Iceberg - Nahh man no jokes! There are girls you f#ck and there are girls you marry. By no means do I want to marry this girl, im just saying shes that type. Shes just a girl thats always been in the back of my head. I've never had chemistry like that before. Coming from the greek system, I didnt exactly get to communicate with the brightest of the bunch.

Im just looking for a smooth way to initiate contact again. If I got her in person, I could seal the deal but we've always had distance.
 
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