"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sticking points

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I've been thinking about this, what are some of the sticking points that we are running into? I mean, what are the things holding us back from better results?

One of my sticking points lately has been taking advantage of even those lesser opportunities to meet women that I used to jump on less than a year ago.

Another one is that sometimes I still catch myself getting nervous before an approach... if I can get something out of the girl, I can usually take it from there.

Had to concentrate on other areas of my life for a while, and have to relearn some of this here... so, post some of these things that are holding us back, and see if we can't help figure these out for ourselves.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i sometimes get needy for no reason, and I tend to overthink everything.
 
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My biggest hurdle is that I really don't care!!!! Rarely do I see a candidate worthy of pursuit - physically, mentally, emotionally!!!! I see nothing - and this is the reality!!!
 

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I think a major road block is some of the content on this site. It's the honest truth. Look around. This forum creates a negative vibe. The mentality in here is men vs. women, the dark days of armageddon. This site should have Carl Orff's "Camina Burana" playing in the backround. It would better fit the apocalyptic theme that floats around in this forum.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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So pimp its scary

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i sometimes get needy for no reason, and I tend to overthink everything.
I had this one for a while, after hooking up with more girls they became alot more of the same and start meaning less... except then you'll land a suprememly hot one and do the same thing again :mad:...

I think a major road block is some of the content on this site. It's the honest truth. Look around. This forum creates a negative vibe. The mentality in here is men vs. women, the dark days of armageddon. This site should have Carl Orff's "Camina Burana" playing in the backround. It would better fit the apocalyptic theme that floats around in this forum.
For this, well, the situation was a bit different when I was at that point... I mean, right now I'm at a sticking point because I'm not in the habit of approaching as of late, but what helped me out was the decision I made to commit to a boot camp. I failed the first week 2 times, and the second week once before I forced through and finished it as I saw it fit (week 5 or 6 I had the results I had been looking for).

Then you'll be having some more of those 'high quality' problems that we'd all much prefer to discuss.

Keep these coming and if you see one where you can offer some advice, don't be shy...
 

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I realised over the weekend that sometimes I think about women more as a goal to win than a pleasure to indulge thus I pursue the most challenging women rather than just banging the easiest...

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My sticking point is my jadedness due to lack of quality women.
 

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My main sticking point is closing and/or leaving for a bit. I still have difficulty getting the number or kiss even when my game has been impeccable and the girl is looking up at me in amazement (being tall rocks!).

I'll tell you this: if you read everything that pook wrote and some Neil Strauss stuff, and use it as you are reading it, amazing things will occur. I have a fairly high social status and my looks are above average so initial attraction has never been a problem. I'd burn it the second I opened my mouth though from neediness and confusion.

The community is like an amazing magical world where I can attract women on a regular and lasting basis. It's like I'm Harry Potter or something. It's a shame I did not have this stuff when I was touring Italy with a posse of hot British chicks. Yea, I know what Style went through. Anyway, time to become the worlds greatest pickup artist.

Sarge On.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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