"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Stealing girl with bf..hehe

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Im at a small college, me and this girl see each other almost everyday in class. I kissed her one day hanging out and then she told me she had a bf (its long distance though). Whatever..i really like her so i didnt give up. She said she loves her bf, but then she was really intrigued by me and ended up hanging out with me anyway. She said she is scared and I put a lot of pressure on her. We hungout a few times then we made out for like 2 hours one day. She really enjoyed it too because her she got really wet lol. Next day she said she didnt want to hangout with me anymore. She doesnt trust herself around me anymore cause she finds me really attractive. I told her I really like her, but she said that I disrespected her and crossed her boundaries by pressuring her. She kinda ignores me now and will refuse to even hangout. I know i ****ed up somewhere, so i dont know what to do. When we see each other in class and bible study, should i act like I dont care? I already pushed the fact that I like her! She is worth it to me and I would want a relationship with her...im not just doing it for fun. I would treat her better. Any advice would be awesome! thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Messing with an attached woman is never recommended. Tell her to loose her current boyfriend, then you pursue. Otherwise, prepare to be cheated on by her as she is doing to the other guy, with you.

You had your fun, drop this one and find another single girl to mess with.
 

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1) Long distance relationships are generally a waste of time.

2) Any girl you can steal from someone else can be stolen from you.

Quit chasing her.
 

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This has got 'hard work' written all over it.

I realised long ago, that when a girl tells you to do something, even if you know it's bull$hit, it's often in your best interest to just do exactly that. The difference is that you do it on your terms and quite often they realise that they didn't want you to do what they said.

She's the one with the restriction here, only she can get rid of it.
When you see her, smile and say 'hi' at the most, then walk away.
Do NOT try to engage her in conversation or spend time with her. Go and have fun with other people.
 

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I completely disagree with going after another guy's girl.

She may be a bit of a slvt, but you should know better.

If her boyfriend finds out, I hope he finds you and kicks the **** out of you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I see so the problem here is him go after her not her giving him some?....

really you should never said you liked her, you should have said to her finish with her Boyfriend and then leaves, or better yet go after a single one, less trouble
 

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Well, I know I am going to be flamed, but you are a disgrace..

She has a boyfriend, and since you are at sosuave, I guess you know what it is like to be hurt by a girl; wheatear she got 'stolen' from you, cheated on her or whatever - at least make her crash her boyfriend before fuxking her..

No props from me, quite the opposite..
 

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Alvafe said:
I see so the problem here is him go after her not her giving him some?....
if you read my post, you'll see I mentioned what I thought of her and explained he should know better.

He knows she has a boyfriend, so there is no excuse.
 

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Call me a ****, but I truly like this girl. I feel like if you truly like someone nothing should stop you from being persistent even if she has a bf. I know i have to get her to lose her bf, but I also have to win her respect back or make her want to be around me again. Whenever I see her I just ignore her.. its awkward. I dont want to give up on her though. Should I just continue to ignore her and hope that she'll want more of me??
 

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If you still wanna go for it against our advice, let us know how you are in 60 days. You think we're tough on you now?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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She's already cheating on her boyfriend that she says she "loves" by making out with you. Now you want a relationship with her? WTF is wrong with you?

Go ahead and pursue her. Once you get her, become infatuated and she fvckin cheats on you, come on back here and we'll wipe the tears from your eyes and console your sorry ass.
 

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There is a certain thrill from eating someone else's candy. Don't expect moral justification for it though.
 
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