Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Stealing girl with bf..hehe

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Im at a small college, me and this girl see each other almost everyday in class. I kissed her one day hanging out and then she told me she had a bf (its long distance though). Whatever..i really like her so i didnt give up. She said she loves her bf, but then she was really intrigued by me and ended up hanging out with me anyway. She said she is scared and I put a lot of pressure on her. We hungout a few times then we made out for like 2 hours one day. She really enjoyed it too because her she got really wet lol. Next day she said she didnt want to hangout with me anymore. She doesnt trust herself around me anymore cause she finds me really attractive. I told her I really like her, but she said that I disrespected her and crossed her boundaries by pressuring her. She kinda ignores me now and will refuse to even hangout. I know i ****ed up somewhere, so i dont know what to do. When we see each other in class and bible study, should i act like I dont care? I already pushed the fact that I like her! She is worth it to me and I would want a relationship with her...im not just doing it for fun. I would treat her better. Any advice would be awesome! thanks
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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VladPatton

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Messing with an attached woman is never recommended. Tell her to loose her current boyfriend, then you pursue. Otherwise, prepare to be cheated on by her as she is doing to the other guy, with you.

You had your fun, drop this one and find another single girl to mess with.
 

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1) Long distance relationships are generally a waste of time.

2) Any girl you can steal from someone else can be stolen from you.

Quit chasing her.
 

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This has got 'hard work' written all over it.

I realised long ago, that when a girl tells you to do something, even if you know it's bull$hit, it's often in your best interest to just do exactly that. The difference is that you do it on your terms and quite often they realise that they didn't want you to do what they said.

She's the one with the restriction here, only she can get rid of it.
When you see her, smile and say 'hi' at the most, then walk away.
Do NOT try to engage her in conversation or spend time with her. Go and have fun with other people.
 

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I completely disagree with going after another guy's girl.

She may be a bit of a slvt, but you should know better.

If her boyfriend finds out, I hope he finds you and kicks the **** out of you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I see so the problem here is him go after her not her giving him some?....

really you should never said you liked her, you should have said to her finish with her Boyfriend and then leaves, or better yet go after a single one, less trouble
 

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Well, I know I am going to be flamed, but you are a disgrace..

She has a boyfriend, and since you are at sosuave, I guess you know what it is like to be hurt by a girl; wheatear she got 'stolen' from you, cheated on her or whatever - at least make her crash her boyfriend before fuxking her..

No props from me, quite the opposite..
 

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Alvafe said:
I see so the problem here is him go after her not her giving him some?....
if you read my post, you'll see I mentioned what I thought of her and explained he should know better.

He knows she has a boyfriend, so there is no excuse.
 

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Call me a ****, but I truly like this girl. I feel like if you truly like someone nothing should stop you from being persistent even if she has a bf. I know i have to get her to lose her bf, but I also have to win her respect back or make her want to be around me again. Whenever I see her I just ignore her.. its awkward. I dont want to give up on her though. Should I just continue to ignore her and hope that she'll want more of me??
 

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If you still wanna go for it against our advice, let us know how you are in 60 days. You think we're tough on you now?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She's already cheating on her boyfriend that she says she "loves" by making out with you. Now you want a relationship with her? WTF is wrong with you?

Go ahead and pursue her. Once you get her, become infatuated and she fvckin cheats on you, come on back here and we'll wipe the tears from your eyes and console your sorry ass.
 

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There is a certain thrill from eating someone else's candy. Don't expect moral justification for it though.
 
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