"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Staying over at her place?

TheCWord

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When you bang a girl for the first time, and it happens at her place, and it's late, do you stay over? If so, do you say anything about it or just fall asleep?

I don't mind staying over, but there's something about doing so with a new plate that feels like I'm handing over power a bit.

Conversely, if we just banged for the first time, it's 2am, and I just say "well, see ya later" it could put out the wrong vibe if she's more LTR material and less pump and dump.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Staying over is completely beta, yes you are giving her the power. Leave the moment after sex, real alpha leave right before they jizz.
 

Harry Wilmington

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LoL - I don't know about you, but once I'm done I'm TIRED, and not trying to drive. And since when was staying over a girl's place considered a "beta" thing to do?? Personally, I stay for the morning sex.
 

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If she's hot and attractive...why the hell not stay over night??

I always do, so I can get some more in the morning before I leave.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Harry Wilmington said:
LoL - I don't know about you, but once I'm done I'm TIRED, and not trying to drive. And since when was staying over a girl's place considered a "beta" thing to do?? Personally, I stay for the morning sex.
Agreed 100%^^

Not only that but I'm usually pretty buzzed & don't need a DUI. Just keeping it real, I don't think I've ever been sober first time banging a chick.

Avoiding cuddling is the biggest pain in the ass, BUT you can LEARN a lot too.

Just blasted through an hour of wake up sex, she wants to cuddle now. She says "Let's just stay in this moment forever" :eek: Yeah she ended up having some BPD traits.
 
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BeDJ said:
Staying over is completely beta, yes you are giving her the power. Leave the moment after sex, real alpha leave right before they jizz.
pah-lease. Morning sex never occurred to you as an option?
 
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iamnobody said:
pah-lease. Morning sex never occurred to you as an option?
At my current lifestyle, fvck no.
Once I am done with sex, I don't crave it anymore - not until I need my next sex release.

I'm done, I do not need to fvck her again. What purpose that that serve? The second time around will not be as good as the first. I would rather be back at my place (somehow) and eat a plate of nachos before I would consider sex with anyone again.

Morning sex? Are you milking it for all the dimes and pennies? It will never be as good as the first time around. Why the fvck stick around for morning sex?

FYI, my comment should be taken with a HUGE grain of saltcasm.

To add:

Morning sex is a mark of Beta. You are trying to milk it for what it's worth.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Harry Wilmington said:
LoL - I don't know about you, but once I'm done I'm TIRED, and not trying to drive. And since when was staying over a girl's place considered a "beta" thing to do?? Personally, I stay for the morning sex.
:up:

plus you might get a free breakfast if you are really good
 

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BeDJ said:
Morning sex is a mark of Beta. You are trying to milk it for what it's worth.
I'm a huge beta who starts his day with off by getting his **** sucked.
 

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BeDJ said:
At my current lifestyle, fvck no.
Once I am done with sex, I don't crave it anymore - not until I need my next sex release.

I'm done, I do not need to fvck her again. What purpose that that serve? The second time around will not be as good as the first. I would rather be back at my place (somehow) and eat a plate of nachos before I would consider sex with anyone again.

Morning sex? Are you milking it for all the dimes and pennies? It will never be as good as the first time around. Why the fvck stick around for morning sex?

FYI, my comment should be taken with a HUGE grain of saltcasm.

To add:

Morning sex is a mark of Beta. You are trying to milk it for what it's worth.
exactly how i feel after sex haha
 
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