"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Staying friends with your ex

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What are you guys' feelings on staying friends with your ex GF? Good idea or bad idea?

The reason I ask is because I broke up with my GF this week. We had been going out for almost 11 months. Now there's talk of staying friends.

Here's the thing. I know I shouldn't be dating this girl because of her emotional baggage and intimacy issues, which is why I broke up with her in the first place, but there's still great sexual chemistry. The last time we broke up, we decided to hang out again as "just friends" and ended up hooking up and getting right back together.

For me it would be ideal to become friends with benefits, but that would be difficult to pull off considering the recency of our breakup and the fact that I was the one who broke up with her. Any thoughts on staying friends with the ex?

Roman
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Stay friends with eX...

Its actually the best thing you can do if your in good terms with her...

Youll have preselection...
Pivot...
Shell introduce you to other girls...


She might even cook for you...

DO IT! Dont let this slide!
 
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I'd say it depends on the situation. Sometimes no way in hell you can be friends with an ex, so why force it? You can't choose your relatives, but you can choose your friends.
 
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The good part is, that until she finds another boyfriend, you're gonna be the guy she comes to for sex.

The bad part is, that when she finds another boyfriend, you're gonna be stuck jacking off because you're still caught up with your ex.

They're ex's for a reason. Leave it at that. Continue to mess around with her whenever you need to get your rocks off, but DO NOT stop gaming other women.
 
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roman said:
What are you guys' feelings on staying friends with your ex GF? Good idea or bad idea?

The reason I ask is because I broke up with my GF this week. We had been going out for almost 11 months. Now there's talk of staying friends.

Here's the thing. I know I shouldn't be dating this girl because of her emotional baggage and intimacy issues, which is why I broke up with her in the first place, but there's still great sexual chemistry. The last time we broke up, we decided to hang out again as "just friends" and ended up hooking up and getting right back together.

For me it would be ideal to become friends with benefits, but that would be difficult to pull off considering the recency of our breakup and the fact that I was the one who broke up with her. Any thoughts on staying friends with the ex?

Roman
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For her it would also be ideal to become friends with benefits. That's the way chicks handle this type of stuff. They rather sleep with somebody they are already comfortable with, ideally an ex boyrfiend, than getting to bed with somebody new. It is a confort thing.

Just be prepared for her to end things when she finally finds somebody she want's to settle down with. You need to be prepared to let her go if and when needed. You can be true, real friends, if there is no sex going on at all, and only if that remains for months/years after you break up. Otherwise, you will need to cut off contact as soon as one of you settles down with somebody new.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It's only a good idea to be friends with an ex if you know that you have other options for dating and/or relationships with other girls. If not, then it's better to cease and desist all contact with her.
 
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If you do the breaking up or both of you simply grow apart and mutually agree to break up then its acceptable to be friends if the girl asks.

Accepting friendship from some chick that got rid of you is nothing but a slow death of dignity and a disingenuous form of apology for her to even ask.

For your specific situation it looks like she's trying to slowly lure you back into the relationship with sex.

Don't give in but feel free to take the sex that she offers and just keep hunting for other chicks in the meantime.

Once you have secured a new source of sex scale it back to regular sexless friendship with your former love.
 
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Being friends with an ex could be hard. Depending on how much you liked each other. There will still be old feelings, memories, and sexual tension. Picutre seeing your girlfriend quite often with the kissing, cuddling, sex.. Then, going from that to just hanging out with each other just as friends? It's gonna be hard for one of you and will most likely end up getting back together.
 
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A lot of guilt, especially after sex. She will feel 'used', no matter what she says.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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