ok so i met this chick at the club and we hung out and we ended up going back to her hotel room but she was like "sleep on your side! don't hog the bed" and I wanted to fvck her but she was facing the window and her back was towards me. I just put my arm around her but nothing happened. I didn't want to just move my hand toward her pvssy or anything. What would you usually say like would you just tell her "im horny" or something where she would at least do stuff back? she was lying there like she was dead or just waiting to fall asleep. I didn't even get to kiss her. Do you just initiate the kiss? How do you tell if she'll be ok with it or not? I didn't want her to kick me out of the room for trying to make a move on her and have her feel uncomfortable.
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stayed at her hotel room, slept in her bed but didn't do ****.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
dannyegg4575
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why are you asking now? it's over. dumbass
You got a girl next to you in bed and you doing a thing? what's wrong with you?
Next time call me over, I'll show you how it's done. You can take the bathroom.
You got a girl next to you in bed and you doing a thing? what's wrong with you?
Next time call me over, I'll show you how it's done. You can take the bathroom.
dannyegg4575
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OMG!!! you want me to teach you how take off your pants too?
yea ive been there before. You just gotta make a move man. Really, if she not interested, she'll let you know, she'll probably just say she's tired, she wont kick you out. you have nothing to lose, if you snooze ur gonna lose anyways, so u might as well try. Ask her to play Just the Tip! j/k
u did the right thing by putting ur arm around her but u should of escalated things more. if u did it slowly im sure she wouldve been responsive. like breathing on her neck, lightly touching her back. u know the ordeal. and if she said no, no big deal, at least u tried.
u did the right thing by putting ur arm around her but u should of escalated things more. if u did it slowly im sure she wouldve been responsive. like breathing on her neck, lightly touching her back. u know the ordeal. and if she said no, no big deal, at least u tried.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I just didn't think she would be interested and I would've pissed her off. just from the body language I was given because she wasn't facing me when laying down, her back was towards me. she told me to "stay on your side of the bed" which means she probably didn't even want me getting close to her? but she didn't do shyt when I put my arm around her like take it off or anything but it was too late already.
yea but i understand that if she says no at least i tried. so next time. i'll just go for it. if i get shut down then just fvck it. it's worth the gamble. i already got that far.
yea but i understand that if she says no at least i tried. so next time. i'll just go for it. if i get shut down then just fvck it. it's worth the gamble. i already got that far.
dannyegg4575
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first off, how did you get to stay in bed with her with that attitude to begin with? pray tell
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ok, i'm acting like an idiot tonight. listen bro, next time, if there is a next time, just do it.
It's that simple. As long as the girl is not saying, "NO", you have the green light to go. simple.
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ok, i'm acting like an idiot tonight. listen bro, next time, if there is a next time, just do it.
It's that simple. As long as the girl is not saying, "NO", you have the green light to go. simple.
iqqi
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You definately shouldn't have just went right for the goodies. Lol!
When you saw that she wasn't resistant to physical contact (when you put your arm around her), you should have escalated to massaging and gently caressing less private areas like her back, her waist, and her hips. Then throw in some light kissing on the back of her neck, and some breathing on her neck. This should get her aroused, and you can escalate into more third base territory like boobies and other areas (wink wink), then you should be in (literally).
Dammit, what is that saying? Man is fire, woman is water, or something. You have to get the water slowly boiling. Then you can cook!
When you saw that she wasn't resistant to physical contact (when you put your arm around her), you should have escalated to massaging and gently caressing less private areas like her back, her waist, and her hips. Then throw in some light kissing on the back of her neck, and some breathing on her neck. This should get her aroused, and you can escalate into more third base territory like boobies and other areas (wink wink), then you should be in (literally).
Dammit, what is that saying? Man is fire, woman is water, or something. You have to get the water slowly boiling. Then you can cook!
iqqi
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DonJuan11 said:
Nearly 900 posts and you wouldn't know an ASD if it slapped you in your face. Or told you to follow it to its hotel room, but sleep on your side of the bed.
To the DJ Bible with you!
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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When it comes to dealing with women, the cardinal rule is to always be aggressive. The situation with you, this chick and the hotel room is a perfect example where the girl was looking for you to be aggressive, but you questioned yourself and failed.
It's like PHAT told you, she wanted you to make a move. Think about it logically. A girl invites you into her hotel room in the middle of the night, she's not having you over to eat milk and cookies and play board games. She wants to hook up. It's up to you, as the guy, to take control of the situation.
The No. 1 rule is to always be aggressive and take control. A woman likes a confident man, and taking control of a situation is the perfect way to show confidence.
It's like PHAT told you, she wanted you to make a move. Think about it logically. A girl invites you into her hotel room in the middle of the night, she's not having you over to eat milk and cookies and play board games. She wants to hook up. It's up to you, as the guy, to take control of the situation.
The No. 1 rule is to always be aggressive and take control. A woman likes a confident man, and taking control of a situation is the perfect way to show confidence.
decadentdestruction
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wow , some how she invites you back to her place ?
* to sleep with her?
bro that girl wanted action , and satisfaction
heres what I would of done, (by the way feel free to correct me)
jumped in bed , you already had your hand around her ?
god gave u another arm man ! and another hand ,
I would of used my fingers and stroked her belly her side, and use my fingers to walk around her stomach ,
then have her turn, breathe on her neck .
then boom, full make out mode... + fore play + touching+spanking= sexy time
you have to be agressive , with girls now these days ,
you have the **** so make the rules.
how did u manage to go back to her place?
did u and her previously make out, dirty dancing , touch in naughty places?
thats what I don't get ...
but any how those are my 2 cents....
* to sleep with her?
bro that girl wanted action , and satisfaction
heres what I would of done, (by the way feel free to correct me)
jumped in bed , you already had your hand around her ?
god gave u another arm man ! and another hand ,
I would of used my fingers and stroked her belly her side, and use my fingers to walk around her stomach ,
then have her turn, breathe on her neck .
then boom, full make out mode... + fore play + touching+spanking= sexy time
you have to be agressive , with girls now these days ,
you have the **** so make the rules.
how did u manage to go back to her place?
did u and her previously make out, dirty dancing , touch in naughty places?
thats what I don't get ...
but any how those are my 2 cents....
You are officially her cuddle mate.. lol.. just playin with ya.. next time do something before you officialy get your friend badge.. listen to Iqqi thoughbaurman said:
..... YA.. do it wrongly and the water will instantly put you out.. :crackup:iqqi said:
ready123
Master Don Juan
I agree with iqqi, it's just asd behavior
you need to learn how to escalate. and it's not so much being aggressive as it is knowing the proper way to lead her toward sex (IE you start fumbling for her pvssy right away, you blow yourself out). learn how to escalate slowly and naturally
dicarlo escalation ladder helps
you need to learn how to escalate. and it's not so much being aggressive as it is knowing the proper way to lead her toward sex (IE you start fumbling for her pvssy right away, you blow yourself out). learn how to escalate slowly and naturally
dicarlo escalation ladder helps
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Killer_Demo
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if she was with me i would have done this........i would have talked to her and caressed her for a min then out of the blue say "you wouldnt be mad if i said i wanted u right now?" then when she gives the :nervous: just put a fat kiss on her.
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Was she blonde? Maybe she thought you guys were "sleeping together":crackup:
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You chickened out... lost confidence.. DONT EVER DO THAT AGAIN..