"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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stay with gf or not?

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hey guys

so i'm a bit conflicted. I have a great girlfriend. She takes care of herself, takes care of me, loves cooking and cooks for me a lot, gives me my space when I need it, is there when I want to chill... great sex, everything's cool. been together for almost 2 years. anyway we're having this conversation the other day though, she's joking around and telling me how desired I am and she's like "yeah, like when we started dating <girl I've always had my eye on> was saying how lucky I am because you're so sexy, prettymuch she wants to fvck you, that's the impression I got"

now, this is a common thing (not trying to brag or anything) -- she'll tell me these convos she has with other girls where they say how great I am and they mention that the sex must be good or whatever. But anyway this girl she mentions, I was kinda after her before we started dating, and I always keep tabs on her. so when i heard this all i could think about was how i could totally get with this other girl.

i still have a great relationship and this girl is amazing, but now all I think about is how good playing the field (or swapping in for this other girl) could be right now. it might be a case of "grass is greener," and for me to maneuver out of this relationship and still retain my image as a mysterious, seductive guy could be difficult. i dunno what to do really. I was thinking since it's stress time right now (hard courses and stuff)maybe I should think on this for a month or so before making any decisions. any advice guys?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How long have you been dating? Are you in a committed relationship?
 
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Tr9n said:
How long have you been dating? Are you in a committed relationship?
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2 years, yes it is very committed. And i'm not one of those "lock-into-a-relationship" guys, this girl is (was?) for sure relationship material in every sense of the word.
 
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Would you even be thinking about this had she not had this conversation with you?

It just seems like that one conversation changed everything about you in just a second.

Are you sure you still want to play the field? You might lose everything you have right now just to pursue something that isn't even there.
 
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I think sitting on it for a little bit sounds about right. Do a cost-benefit analysis type thing.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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all you have to do is cheat, the best thing that can happen is that you will have your committed girlfriend, and all the azz on the side that you want. Worst that could happen is, your girlfriend leaves you, but then you still have the azz - you have nothing to lose!!!

p.s. - yes, you do not love her, and that is ok, you are having normal thoughts about wanting to bang other chicks - I don't get guys like you, who pretty much force themselves into a dead-end relationship where the only end result is that you all of a sudden lose the right to FREEDOM OF PVSSY, and what do you gain?

what do you gain by committing to a girlfriend?? nothing that you couldn't have if you weren't committed
 
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Kailex said:
Would you even be thinking about this had she not had this conversation with you?

It just seems like that one conversation changed everything about you in just a second.
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Good point Kailex.

It does seem weird that you'd consider leaving this girl who has so many desirable qualities simply because of some comment she made.


From everything you've said about your girl,she seems like the "holy grail" of girlfriends. I think this may be a "grass is greener" scenario as you described.

Kailex said:
Are you sure you still want to play the field? You might lose everything you have right now just to pursue something that isn't even there.
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Right again Kailex,especially the part about pursung something that isn't there.


Wwwww,it seems like you're about to go and pursue a mirage. Yeah,from a distance what you see may appear to be good,but when you get right up to it,you'll probably kick yourself for throwing away this jewel of a girl you have.


A guy can have sex with any girl he dates,so the sex is a given. But all these other things you mentioned about your girlfriend;her taking care of herself,taking care of you,cooking for you,giving you room when you need it,etc, are a rare find.

And you have it all wrapped up in one person.


This girl you're thinking about leaving your girlfreind for may give you sex,but would that alone be enough to make up for all the other traits your girl has?


Just think it though before you act.
 
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