You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
300 bored harridans with a new "cause" to feign shock and outrage over. *smh*The sculpture is a "source of apprehension, fear, and triggering thoughts regarding sexual assault" for many, according to the petition, which had nearly 300 signees on Wednesday.
Lol, good point. No one would dare complain about the statue stirring thoughts of criminal activity then.( . )( . ) said:This fella who created it is probably thinking to himself " Why the fvck didn't I just make him black"
They should make it an obese woman so the plus size girls can have a realistic role model. It's all a matter of playing these left wing sensitivities against themselves.DJDamage said:They should change the statue for a hot looking woman wearing bra and panties, I bet you it will garner more complains from feminists about it.
zekko said:An image of a man in his underwear is a trigger for memories of sexual assault. But images of women in their underwear are everywhere, and considered art. Put a woman in her underwear and everyone is expected to appreciate it. Actually, I agree with the latter opinion, but I can't help but notice the double standard.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Solid...zekko said:An image of a man in his underwear is a trigger for memories of sexual assault. But images of women in their underwear are everywhere, and considered art. Put a woman in her underwear and everyone is expected to appreciate it. Actually, I agree with the latter opinion, but I can't help but notice the double standard.