"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Starting the year off strong.

Flabbergasped?

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Well, I'm back. The summer was uneventful because of how busy I was at certain points, but I certainly had fun. Little time for girls though.

So anyway, school starts. I'm a senior, but younger than most by about a year. There's a new girl in my advisory (pretty much homeroom) that is a freshman; she's not particularly attractive, but very smart and clever, and you'll see why later. Since I've dealt with a lot of stupid b*tches before, so her brains was a big plus. She's a 7, maybe an 8, but extremely intelligent.

Anyway, she somehow has her locker right next to mine (fate or something?). I decided, why not? So, for the first few days of school, I did some basic introductions, nothing serious, pretty light, etc. I tried my best to not seem preoccupied with her (one thing I did pretty stupidly in earlier years, following girls around like a loser, etc), and it seems it worked; she's pretty much following ME around instead. Excellent. What I saw to be the best of it, at this point, was that I hadn’t done much to impress her outside of casual conversation (aka, I didn’t have to use my talents/abilities, just everyday contact did it). I’ve found that most infatuations are extremely short if they’re built on what someone CAN do, not who they ARE.

Here's when shiznyte hits the fan. We’ve been at school for a little more than three weeks, and last Friday (just before Labor Day weekend), I ask what she’s going to do over the weekend. I wasn’t looking to ask her out or anything, considering we hadn’t started showing interest for any more than a week and a half. Anyway, she’s a bit peppier than usual, and says its her anniversary.

When a teenage girl mentions anniversary, it can only mean one thing.

“With my b/f”, she says, a bit withdrawn. I suppose she noticed what this would entail.

“Oh, really? Congratulations, how long?” I say as casually as possible, even though I’m moderately ticked off at this new development.

“6 months.”

“Who is it?” I say casually again, even though the succinctness of the statement makes it a bit threatening.

“Oh, no one in this school, if he was, you would kill him.” See what I meant about clever? See, I can tell there’s interest, but the b/f thing is a bit iffy. My plan was to keep laying the game on, just not as strongly as before, and see how things turn out.

Thoughts? Unfortunately, even if something did develop, I am so ultra-busy with AP classes and other commitments that it would likely not be too fulfilling, but since when has that stopped anyway.

A few problems (not really). There’s the b/f, for one. Secondly, there are these two chumps who are going after her, and that I know pretty well, but who are absolutely AFC with girls. One of them is a pervert and doesn’t care what his approach is unless he grabs something, and the other has both homosexual vibes, and doesn’t quite know what he’s doing.

Should be an eventful year, but who knows.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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GAH! when she said i have a b/f....you should of said something like....well...is he going to bring us breakfest in bed saturday or what?
 

Flabbergasped?

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Wow, that would have been great! I was a bit too stunned to say anything. Considering the way she was acting, it was the last thing I expected.

Well, there's always next time. I'll keep that in mind.
 

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or "oh how olds your boyfriend, he 14 too?"lol
I said that when some betch at the beach told me she had a boyfriend and "if you saw him, you wouldn't be talking to me."

keep layin it, but keep her on the backburner. don't be the guy who breaks up a relationship, but in the chance they seperate you know its time to start playin the more suave-ish moves.

keep gamin, peace.
 

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Sly - I really liked your comment man ;) THats 1s gunna get used yo.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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