"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Starting the year off strong.

Flabbergasped?

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Well, I'm back. The summer was uneventful because of how busy I was at certain points, but I certainly had fun. Little time for girls though.

So anyway, school starts. I'm a senior, but younger than most by about a year. There's a new girl in my advisory (pretty much homeroom) that is a freshman; she's not particularly attractive, but very smart and clever, and you'll see why later. Since I've dealt with a lot of stupid b*tches before, so her brains was a big plus. She's a 7, maybe an 8, but extremely intelligent.

Anyway, she somehow has her locker right next to mine (fate or something?). I decided, why not? So, for the first few days of school, I did some basic introductions, nothing serious, pretty light, etc. I tried my best to not seem preoccupied with her (one thing I did pretty stupidly in earlier years, following girls around like a loser, etc), and it seems it worked; she's pretty much following ME around instead. Excellent. What I saw to be the best of it, at this point, was that I hadn’t done much to impress her outside of casual conversation (aka, I didn’t have to use my talents/abilities, just everyday contact did it). I’ve found that most infatuations are extremely short if they’re built on what someone CAN do, not who they ARE.

Here's when shiznyte hits the fan. We’ve been at school for a little more than three weeks, and last Friday (just before Labor Day weekend), I ask what she’s going to do over the weekend. I wasn’t looking to ask her out or anything, considering we hadn’t started showing interest for any more than a week and a half. Anyway, she’s a bit peppier than usual, and says its her anniversary.

When a teenage girl mentions anniversary, it can only mean one thing.

“With my b/f”, she says, a bit withdrawn. I suppose she noticed what this would entail.

“Oh, really? Congratulations, how long?” I say as casually as possible, even though I’m moderately ticked off at this new development.

“6 months.”

“Who is it?” I say casually again, even though the succinctness of the statement makes it a bit threatening.

“Oh, no one in this school, if he was, you would kill him.” See what I meant about clever? See, I can tell there’s interest, but the b/f thing is a bit iffy. My plan was to keep laying the game on, just not as strongly as before, and see how things turn out.

Thoughts? Unfortunately, even if something did develop, I am so ultra-busy with AP classes and other commitments that it would likely not be too fulfilling, but since when has that stopped anyway.

A few problems (not really). There’s the b/f, for one. Secondly, there are these two chumps who are going after her, and that I know pretty well, but who are absolutely AFC with girls. One of them is a pervert and doesn’t care what his approach is unless he grabs something, and the other has both homosexual vibes, and doesn’t quite know what he’s doing.

Should be an eventful year, but who knows.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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GAH! when she said i have a b/f....you should of said something like....well...is he going to bring us breakfest in bed saturday or what?
 

Flabbergasped?

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Wow, that would have been great! I was a bit too stunned to say anything. Considering the way she was acting, it was the last thing I expected.

Well, there's always next time. I'll keep that in mind.
 

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or "oh how olds your boyfriend, he 14 too?"lol
I said that when some betch at the beach told me she had a boyfriend and "if you saw him, you wouldn't be talking to me."

keep layin it, but keep her on the backburner. don't be the guy who breaks up a relationship, but in the chance they seperate you know its time to start playin the more suave-ish moves.

keep gamin, peace.
 

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Sly - I really liked your comment man ;) THats 1s gunna get used yo.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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