"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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starting school, how cautious to be...?

golf299

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i'm just starting a 4 year program with only a little more than 100 students in my class. there are a bunch of good looking girls in the class, and the class is dominated by females. we will all be having the same classes together for 4 years...

so how long do i bide my time before i make any sort of move on a girl... i mean, i don't want to come right out and start asking girls out and then be rejected and have to face them for years to come...

so would it be more advisory to just wait until one of the girls shows interest in me before i make a move??

how would you play it?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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well theres no given time, it depends how well things are going, you may probably do not want to try to hard at getting numbers on hte first day but you could get them before the end of the first week and start hanging out, out of classes.

as for hiting on girls, not on the first day but if you are getting high intrest levles you could do it in the first week

hope iv been a help
 

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Originally posted by golf299
i'm just starting a 4 year program with only a little more than 100 students in my class. there are a bunch of good looking girls in the class, and the class is dominated by females. we will all be having the same classes together for 4 years...

so how long do i bide my time before i make any sort of move on a girl... i mean, i don't want to come right out and start asking girls out and then be rejected and have to face them for years to come...

so would it be more advisory to just wait until one of the girls shows interest in me before i make a move??

how would you play it?
Start talking to all of them. Build a rapport with your entire class... Eventually, when you find a girl you like (i'm sure there will be several), ask for her number or ask her out. Your looking into this too much...
 

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Look at it this way

i'm just starting a 4 year program with only a little more than 100 students in my class. there are a bunch of good looking girls in the class, and the class is dominated by females. we will all be having the same classes together for 4 years...
First of all your title was "How cautious should I be." It should be "How bold should I be?" Golf: Don't walk on eggshells. I want you to change your attitude here. Your acting like there is a shortage of women and you need to conserve what you have and be timid. Let me tell you Golf that is the furthest from the truth you can get!

Beutiful women are INFINIT! There's a bunch in your class, so go make them attracted to you! And if you **** things up with them, then learn from your mistakes, use your head, and meet women outside of your classes. WOMEN ARE EVERYWHERE, there is no shortage of anything in this world it's everywhere.

If you are not expirienced then it's time to get epirienced. Do not hesitate Golf, you are afraid I can tell, don't be afraid to jump right on in and make mistakes, because you need to learn from your mistakes. Start wondering "what would happen if I did this or that." Try it. What will she do if I did this.

Remember don't walk on eggshells, invite what you fear to get over your false fears.
 
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