ElCubanito13
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Alright I'm starting high school. Is there anything I need to know? Like tips and stuff like that.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Starting HS
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
To make your HS experience enjoyable be an active guy. TAKE UP A SPORT(S). I do Football, indoor track, and outdoor track. If you are going to only dedicate yourself to one sport then train in that sport year round. School clubs are a joke. They often only meet once a week and have like only 10 members. You get so much more recognition from your peers and teachers if you're in a sport.
My freshman and sophomore year sucked. I was walking around the hallways scared. Head down, not talking to anyone, and slept in all my classes. It's like I wasted those two years of my life not going out on weekends and having a good time. I changed my junior year. Pretty much don't do what I did my first two years of highschool you will regret it so much. Make friends and act like you've been going to that school your whole life attended school events and have fun. When it's gone you're going to miss it so much. Attended a school car wash is going to be such a better memory for you then skipping it to go smoke weed.
My freshman and sophomore year sucked. I was walking around the hallways scared. Head down, not talking to anyone, and slept in all my classes. It's like I wasted those two years of my life not going out on weekends and having a good time. I changed my junior year. Pretty much don't do what I did my first two years of highschool you will regret it so much. Make friends and act like you've been going to that school your whole life attended school events and have fun. When it's gone you're going to miss it so much. Attended a school car wash is going to be such a better memory for you then skipping it to go smoke weed.
Boxer said:To make your HS experience enjoyable be an active guy. TAKE UP A SPORT(S).
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Attending a school car wash is going to be such a better memory for you than skipping it to go smoke weed.
QFT, great points. And its very true, taking up sports is a great way to meet new people and upperclassmen especially.
Just don't worry about it. The more you are lax and chill, the easier the days will go by and the better your self image will be. Plus, you will make more friends that way than if you looked nervous
Nino-Tk
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have fun and enjoy yourself boy...oh and don't let any dumbo bully you man.
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Hey man.
I was in your shoes three years ago. There are a LOT of things I would like to suggest, but I'm only going to give you one. I'm sure you can find more suggestions on this forum. I'm pretty new to this place, but it has so much valuable content... I wish I would have read this going into my freshman year.
Anyhow, High school is going to be different. The best thing you can do is to approach it with an open mind, and seize every opportunity to get to know people.
There are many great people you will meet throughout high school, but you may never meet them if you don't have an open mind and make an effort to meet them. Think about your best friends now. Think about how you guys met. Every friendship/relationship starts as a simple hello or a similar interation. So seize every opportunity to start one.
Let me know how things go. Best of Luck.
Watchin your back,
Big Brother.
I was in your shoes three years ago. There are a LOT of things I would like to suggest, but I'm only going to give you one. I'm sure you can find more suggestions on this forum. I'm pretty new to this place, but it has so much valuable content... I wish I would have read this going into my freshman year.
Anyhow, High school is going to be different. The best thing you can do is to approach it with an open mind, and seize every opportunity to get to know people.
There are many great people you will meet throughout high school, but you may never meet them if you don't have an open mind and make an effort to meet them. Think about your best friends now. Think about how you guys met. Every friendship/relationship starts as a simple hello or a similar interation. So seize every opportunity to start one.
Let me know how things go. Best of Luck.
Watchin your back,
Big Brother.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ElCubanito13
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alright thanks everyone.. i been working out everyday ... I also signed up for guitar class. Ima try to see if i can get in football or basketball. Lately I have been trying to spin as many plates as possible.
I wouldn't knock clubs off the list. Colleges want to see leadership experience, and volunteer work. Clubs will provide opportunities for this as well as make connections with teachers for recommendations. W/e you do just try to make the most of it and be actively involved whether that's sports, Student government, clubs, or a mix. Find what will work towards your future and find something to get into where you are in a top position.
I just wanted to add one more thing. Don't be nervous/shy around upperclassmen. Sophomores, juniors, and seniors are willing to be your friend. They are not scary bullies. Their going to know the school better then you and there is definitely some stuff you can learn from them what to expect at your homecoming dance, events for you to look forward to, etc. They will also be able to drive before you will. Having friends that can drive is AWESOME!!!!! I was a junior last school season and I offered my hand in friendship to the whole class of 2013. I became pretty popular with them and a lot of the guys look up to me and the girls would just drool over me. They could not keep their hands off. However still some were just shy/nervous and wanted nothing to do with me just because I was a junior and they felt intimidated I guess. That's where I'm getting this from. Don't be that scared kid, become friends with anyone that you can.
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I noticed your comment about spinning plates. For now don't even worry about women. Just be that fun outgoing guy that everyone likes to be around and you won't even notice that you're "spinning plates" it will all just come together with out any effort.
With self improvement comes girls. That's what I learned.
EDIT:
I noticed your comment about spinning plates. For now don't even worry about women. Just be that fun outgoing guy that everyone likes to be around and you won't even notice that you're "spinning plates" it will all just come together with out any effort.
With self improvement comes girls. That's what I learned.
ElCubanito13
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Again I want to thank you guys for contributing. Also Boxer plenty of thanks to you. You've said many words of wisdom. Thanks for all of you guys for you help.