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Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 21, 2016
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My social skills are really terrible. Striving everyday to improve it, but after 90% of the social encounters I feel horrible. The other 10% is with family, some colleagues or people I just don't care about.
Now my dream is to start a bar, because I love the social aspect, the managing, the organizing,... As well as creating the correct scene for a party, although this can be very subjective and depends on your public, so not completely sure about that. As long as I employ the right people who have those skills that I don't have, is there any chance of succes? And I can learn from them in the meantime.
But I want your honest opinions, I do believe I am good at the managing stuff, but not so at the social part. Whenever you go out, how often do you see the boss of that bar/restaurant/club? Of course behind the scenes they need those social skills to get good deals, to attract people,...
And another thing, I worked at a bar for some time in the past. Yes I barely could hold a conversation with the customers, but they all liked me because I was friendly and did my job apparantly quite well (typical nice guy behaviour). And I feel I was more social back then, than I am now.
But I simply can't get this thought out of my head. I'm currently in a job which I do love, but I guess not enough. There is no social aspect to it and although it earns 3 times the average of my country, every day is that same idea in my head. But if you read my threads, you can see I'm in a bad spot socially and emotionally...
Honest advice is appreciated.
Now my dream is to start a bar, because I love the social aspect, the managing, the organizing,... As well as creating the correct scene for a party, although this can be very subjective and depends on your public, so not completely sure about that. As long as I employ the right people who have those skills that I don't have, is there any chance of succes? And I can learn from them in the meantime.
But I want your honest opinions, I do believe I am good at the managing stuff, but not so at the social part. Whenever you go out, how often do you see the boss of that bar/restaurant/club? Of course behind the scenes they need those social skills to get good deals, to attract people,...
And another thing, I worked at a bar for some time in the past. Yes I barely could hold a conversation with the customers, but they all liked me because I was friendly and did my job apparantly quite well (typical nice guy behaviour). And I feel I was more social back then, than I am now.
But I simply can't get this thought out of my head. I'm currently in a job which I do love, but I guess not enough. There is no social aspect to it and although it earns 3 times the average of my country, every day is that same idea in my head. But if you read my threads, you can see I'm in a bad spot socially and emotionally...
Honest advice is appreciated.