"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Starring at girls when talking to them

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Ok,
I had written a previous thread about starring at girls when walking.

But how about when you are in conversation?

I tried looking at girls with big open eyes with a smiling and sometimes it seemed like they were getting freaked out, as if they saw I liked them.

Is it better to just think of a girl as a friend when you talk to her, or should you let her see you think she's hot?????
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It is ok to look into their eyes.

It is ok to look in a girl's eyes when you speak to them. If you find her very attractive, a girl wants that eye contact. If she looks away and smiles, then you have touched a shy nerve. That means that she has the same feelings as you. Very important at that time to regain more eye contact to subliminally tell her what is on your mind.

TRUST ME, GIRLS CAN READ YOUR MIND, ESPECIALLY IF THEY ARE LOOKING INTO YOUR EYES. Also, they will tell you what is on their minds as well. You will be able to feel that energy.

If you really like someone, be aggressive enough to continue the contact. Girls love contact, especially if they are interested in the guy as well!

Gina
 

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i read something somewhere about triangular looking (or something like that) its basicly where you alternate between looking at the girls left eye, then right eye, then lips (not sure if the order matters, prolly not). its supposed to create sexual tension, not sure how effective it is.

some people get intimidated by direct eye contact, i think as long as you are looking near the eyes its fine.
at the end of the day, worry about what you are saying, shes not going to be overly concerned where you are looking as long as you are engaging and the convo is good
 

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Man, don't waste too much energy during the convo thinking about how to smile, how big, what sort or one of two things will happen 1) You'll miss key information she gives you 2) You'll panic and most likely not smile.

A couple of key things:

Showing teeth indicates a 'stronger' smile, not so much a better smile. Same goes for the width of your smile. Personally, I only show my teeth once I've got a bit of rapport going. I wouldn't show my teeth to a stranger.

And just to enhance my energy point up top, I only made these observations at this moment - these aren't things that I usually think about. They're just instinctual.

Another tip: Mirror her. If she says something with a small smile, don't crack a huge-ass grin. Same goes for when you say something. If you start laughing hysterically and she doesn't either ease down a notch or two, or change topics.

Regarding the eyes, only stretch your eyes to exaggerate something, don't stare at her like that - it seems freaky to me.

Anyway, hope this helps. Just my opinions.
J
 

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nice feedback!!!!!


I don't think showing teeth is such a bad thing.. but I think holding the smile for too long looks freaky...

This left eye right eye stuff, and even mirroring has gotta be overrated.


Anyone read Allen Thompson's article on the smile? He says to give a big grin......... is this not accurate?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Staring is bad, period. Case in point, ever had your girl catch you staring at other women? Has she ever caught you glancing at another woman? See the difference?
 

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I mean ok... lets say you are talking to a girl you are friends with... you just act normal and yourself.

But if you are talking to a girl you find attractive, do you purposely hold a stare longer, or open your eyes wider?

This is stuff I have never been able to get down.
 
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