"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Stanislavsky and the way he might look at you

Ars Amoris

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Hi guys,
Just thought I would share a little actors trick I picked up along the way. So you're having confidence probs and trying all sorts of imaging and mental **** but it just doesn't seem to work? Okay first of all when it comes to recapturing any emotion one of the prime senses is smell! Believe it or not it's true. So how do we use this little gem? Ok think back to a time when you felt really confident, self assured, top o' the world ma! Then try and remember what you could smell as well as see, hear, and taste. Smell first, its the most important, its hard to remember sometimes but try. You will soon feel the emotion rising within you. Afterwards you dont have to worry about using masonic handshakes, indian signs to recall the emotion, just remember the smell and BANG! the emotion will be there. Its a trick used by many actors, De Niro, Caine, Hanks, Hoffman,... because it works! Any comments appreciated.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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yes, good idea. for example, sniff sunscreen, bam, instantly at the beach, relaxed and cool. smell chlorine, bam, instantly at a swim meet, kicking a--. smell bugspray, instantly in the woods, having a good time. sniff glue ... ;-)
 

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OK the smell of ***** might be a good one, but I'm not buying a girls used panties just for that, and it'd be hard to sniff em in public.
 

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Very interesting

Please share more techniques like this. Method acting is about getting into the moment which would definately help my game out as I am too much about planning.
 

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Cinephile see my post to "unfortunately i'm not blessed" further up.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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