"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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backbreaker

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I was at a friends house today, it just so happens with a friend of mine who knew two girls, one in a relationship, one single, both cute but not Hot or anything... definatly ****able though.

Anyway, we get on the subject of dating and one of them starts talking about a first date she recently went on to a movie. I told her that was a bad idea, and the rationale why. She agreed with me. So she asks me what do I do on first dates?... I don't really go on first dates, but when I do, I go to do something fun or something I have been meaning to do for a while, and now have an excuse to do, like go-cart riding or gator golf, or better yet, golf in general.. swimming, a minor league baseball game, you get the point.

So she asks me what about dinner? I say no, at least not on the first date. And she questioned me on it, and I guess she expected me to back down. No way in hell I would ever take a girl out to eat on a first date, unless I was virtually guaranteed sex afterwards.

Like I explaned to her, you have to earn the right to be taken out to eat, it's not given.

My friend tried to cover up, or whatever, and say how he likes going to the movies and **** like that.. I guess they thought I was going to do the same.

WRONG.

so one of them mentions they are hungry, and they ask do I want to go get something to eat.. I say that's cool. They ask me would I pay for them. I tellt hem no..why should i?

By now it's just the fact of the matter, i"m not backing down, simply because that's what I believe. This ***** isn't even hot and she is telling me what is and what isn't right on a date.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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Obviously the going out to eat was a test by her. Aslong as you didny pay for her, your fine, nothing wrong with eating. it wasnt a date, you where all just going to get some food.

I actualy must say well done, this is good going.
 

Mr_knowit_all

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It's a very strange phenomenon. When you treat women good, and spend money on them, they tend to resent you.
 

SELF-MASTERY

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backbreaker said:
hell no I didn't take them out to eat.
All is good.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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