You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Plenty of rows and pullups for your lats and middle back which are lagging.I-tallionStallion said:MM...there are causes for these things you say. My problem may lie that i am not doing rows correctly. Although i've watched form videos awhile ago, i never had coaching on them. Plus that is the once excerise i have missed here and there for the first 4 months. Until i changed my times, i was missing rows on friday. Which probably set them back. a lot. Which is why there wasn't a large weight increase for the 6 months lifting.
For the chest...okay another problem was with DB press for a couple months. Once I hit 60lbs i couldn't go higher. So i just kept doing that every week for 2-3 months. Thats why I just joined a new gym with DB that go up to 150 lbs.
Alright, so the reasons for what you said, i know why they are lagging. I just joined this gym this week, and i always have a little extra time on Wednesday...so maybe i'll put DB press in again. (Dips should help overall too). I'll continue things as planned for the next couple months. If it doesn't work out and there is no improvement, i'll figure out another way.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Haha you know i think i could have had it quag...idk. After i watched it i laughed at myselfQuagmire911 said:Haha the deadlift, I f***** loved it. Unlucky, but good attemptYou'd have made it if you sniffed your ammonia like Benni
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Which routine is it you are going onto, is it a 3/4 day Westside? Any DE work?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.