mustfirstregister
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What does it mean if she squeezes your hand at the end of the date when she gives a goodbye handshake?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Squeezes my hand
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
If her handshake grip was at a rating of 7 out of 10, then it means that on the 24th minute and 12 seconds into the date she liked what you said.
LOL, just kidding.
Dating experts, intervene and tell him what it means.
LOL, just kidding.
Dating experts, intervene and tell him what it means.
Bible_Belt
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It means that she, like everyone else reading this, thinks a "goodbye handshake" is a joke and really wants you to kiss her instead.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
mustfirstregister
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I don't kiss girls on the first date.Bible_Belt said:
CantTouchMyStyle
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I am really giving up on this forum.
Jesus man.
Jesus man.
Listen, I know at the rip old age of 80, when you were growing up, kissing a girl on the first date wasn't done.mustfirstregister said:
But if you want her for anything other than a friend, you must escalate physically during the date.
This partly comes down to proper date planning (i.e. opportunities for kino) and partly down to having the balls to go for what you want.
Girls want you to make a move.
She is wondering why you aren't and probably thinks it's because you don't like her.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Coffeebazooka
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It is hard to know for sure without seeing the rest of her body language. I had been talking to this girl with a bit of disinterest, teasing her a bit and not really focusing on her. When we were about to say goodbye she gave my hand a squeeze and deep eye contact. Instead of going home I tagged up with them because it was a "**** me signal" at that time and we ended up in bed together.
In your case it could have been a display of interest even though you didn't make any moves on her or it could just have been a reassuring gesture because she felt sorry for you. Did she look into your eyes? Did she smile? What did she do besides squeeze your hand?
In your case it could have been a display of interest even though you didn't make any moves on her or it could just have been a reassuring gesture because she felt sorry for you. Did she look into your eyes? Did she smile? What did she do besides squeeze your hand?
mustfirstregister
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**** it I will just ask her out and see what happens. This is ****ing over analyzing too much.
MurdocNiccals
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Lol that's some Hank Hill **** lmao xD
Goodbye handshake? How affectionate!
Goodbye handshake? How affectionate!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
