mustfirstregister
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What does it mean if she squeezes your hand at the end of the date when she gives a goodbye handshake?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Squeezes my hand
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
If her handshake grip was at a rating of 7 out of 10, then it means that on the 24th minute and 12 seconds into the date she liked what you said.
LOL, just kidding.
Dating experts, intervene and tell him what it means.
LOL, just kidding.
Dating experts, intervene and tell him what it means.
Bible_Belt
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It means that she, like everyone else reading this, thinks a "goodbye handshake" is a joke and really wants you to kiss her instead.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
mustfirstregister
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I don't kiss girls on the first date.Bible_Belt said:
CantTouchMyStyle
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I am really giving up on this forum.
Jesus man.
Jesus man.
Listen, I know at the rip old age of 80, when you were growing up, kissing a girl on the first date wasn't done.mustfirstregister said:
But if you want her for anything other than a friend, you must escalate physically during the date.
This partly comes down to proper date planning (i.e. opportunities for kino) and partly down to having the balls to go for what you want.
Girls want you to make a move.
She is wondering why you aren't and probably thinks it's because you don't like her.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Coffeebazooka
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It is hard to know for sure without seeing the rest of her body language. I had been talking to this girl with a bit of disinterest, teasing her a bit and not really focusing on her. When we were about to say goodbye she gave my hand a squeeze and deep eye contact. Instead of going home I tagged up with them because it was a "**** me signal" at that time and we ended up in bed together.
In your case it could have been a display of interest even though you didn't make any moves on her or it could just have been a reassuring gesture because she felt sorry for you. Did she look into your eyes? Did she smile? What did she do besides squeeze your hand?
In your case it could have been a display of interest even though you didn't make any moves on her or it could just have been a reassuring gesture because she felt sorry for you. Did she look into your eyes? Did she smile? What did she do besides squeeze your hand?
mustfirstregister
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**** it I will just ask her out and see what happens. This is ****ing over analyzing too much.
MurdocNiccals
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Lol that's some Hank Hill **** lmao xD
Goodbye handshake? How affectionate!
Goodbye handshake? How affectionate!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
