"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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squats: go as low as possible?

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Go as low as possible, or just when my thighs are parrellel to the ground?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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hope7 said:
Go as low as possible, or just when my thighs are parrellel to the ground?
As low as possible.
 

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Isn't that hard on your knees though, or even a chance of messing it up?
 

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hitman I have the same question. sometimes after squat workouts my knees hurt the next day. i am only 17 tho
 

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"Ass to the grass" isn't that great on the knees, especially when you start getting heavy. Personally, I just go to parallel.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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TyTe`EyEs said:
"Ass to the grass" isn't that great on the knees, especially when you start getting heavy.
Prove it, please?

Or did you just hear that from some "big guy" in the gym?
 

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mrRuckus said:
Prove it, please?

Or did you just hear that from some "big guy" in the gym?
I'm speaking from personal experience. It might have something to do with that sharp shooting pain I get. Or maybe it was what that big guy was saying.
 

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1.) Anyone who tells you Oly squats are bad for the knees is a certifiable moron. The knee is at its most disadvantaged and dangerous possition at parallel. By squatting to parallel, you stop and reverse the movement RIGHT at its most fragile point. THIS is very dangerous, which is why parallel squats should only be done by competitive powerlifters. Squatting past parallel is much safer, as you reverse the movement deep in the hole, where your knee is pretty damn stable.

2.) Generally, if volume/frequency isn't the issue, its a form issue. How are you squatting? Are you sure your form is correct? What kind of footwear are you wearing? Whats your stance? We can talk about this more in depth if you'd like.
Quote from Freddy at:

http://forum.mesomorphosis.com/training-forum/how-to-oly-squat-134233514.html?highlight=squat+form
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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someone told me, knee shouldn't go past the toe. so how would you do squats to the ground with this?
 

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kickureface said:
someone told me, knee shouldn't go past the toe. so how would you do squats to the ground with this?
That's just a general rule. Everybody's squat is different though. Try to sit back with your hips more. Hips should move first, then knees.

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Am I the only one who lacks the flexibility to go farther than parallel?
Try different stances and sitting back more.
 

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Depending on how flexible you are, the lower you can, often the better. But as has been said, flexing to parallel does the trick.

My old Phys ED teacher is a former bodybuilder, he swore by the theory of "The lower the better". Shame about the athritis that followed!
 

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Hockey Playa said:
dont go 90 degrees, its bad on your knees Scrapes away at it, doctor told me
Most doctors I've spoken with readily admit to knowing little about physiology. My education regarding the human body and it's components was not nearly as intense or long lasting as that done by medical practitioners, but the focus is on different areas.

Doctors learn a lot about the way the body works, but seem to have limited knowledge of how it moves.

Generally speaking, when squatting you should go as low as possible whilst keeping your knees level with or behind the level of your toes to prevent shearing force through the knee.

Ass to grass squats only become dangerous (assuming proper technique is enforced) when the squatter goes so low that he can relax on his haunches. If the knee joint is relaxed at the bottom of the squat whilst under loading, then bad things can happen.
 

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I was reading an article by John Berardi the other day and he says most bodybuilders say go deep but this is ineffective for some people. Depends on your body type and how long your legs are relative to other parts of your body, etc. He says this is true of other lifts like bench and deadlifts.

I don't think he's a quack, he seems like a pretty respectable trainer. His eating program gets a lot of attention. He has a few articles on bodybuilding.com. You should research it some.

Celadus
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I packed the book with the article in my car and can't get to it for a week, but it had something to do with optimal mechanical advantage and injury prevention. He suggested changing up feet stance too.


Celadus
 

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Its called "From Scrawny to Brawny" by John Berardi. It's a pretty good book if you are tall and naturally thin. Only the section on posture and the deadlift, squat and bench press positioning sections are unique though.

Once I get it out, I can make the good sections "available" to you.

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