"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Squat Form Check (Video)

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Just need some insight on my form.

I've been on Rip's routine for about a month now. This is my first set of of 3, 175x5.

Sorry about the unnecessary footage, and the loudness of the music. No editing software. :)


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63mdY0LIZLk
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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almost perfect !!!! except I couldnt see your feet, but I encourage people to keep a close stance with toes pointing at an extreme outwards ankle.

Your knees looked OK but I try to encourage extreme pushing outwards of the knees on the way up.

im not sure where the bar is resting but place it on your rear delts not traps.
 

Pie in the Sky

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Drum&Bass said:
almost perfect !!!! except I couldnt see your feet, but I encourage people to keep a close stance with toes pointing at an extreme outwards ankle.

Your knees looked OK but I try to encourage extreme pushing outwards of the knees on the way up.

im not sure where the bar is resting but place it on your rear delts not traps.

This is horrible advice. Always point your feet in the same direction your knees are bending to prevent injury. Bar placement looked okay to me. I liked the first 2 reps then you started leaning forward too much coming out of the hole. You want to flex your glutes as hard as you can and keep your chest up when you are coming back up. This prevents you from rounding your back (impossible with glutes flexed) and minimizes pull back which will put extra stress on erector spinae. Post this on a bodybuilding forum if you want solid feedback.
 

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Awesome, thanks guys. I can definately see an exaggerated lean on the later reps. I will try to work on that.

I will take it to bb.com, and probably rip's forum as well.

Anyone else?
 

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First off fix your hat! Don't wear it backwards when squatting, it can only get in the way. Wearing it backwards kinda makes you looks like a douche,trust me my buddies in the gym comment to me when I do it,but I still do it sometimes. Lol

Your doing too much weight and starting to lose control near the bottom of the rep,look at how your upper half starts to lean forward. Try to keep your back a little more straight,it shouldn't be a problem when you have less weight though.

Nice and deep,that's how you do'em.

It's never about the weight but the intensity and isolation that make you grow.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Drum&Bass said:
almost perfect !!!! except I couldnt see your feet, but I encourage people to keep a close stance with toes pointing at an extreme outwards ankle.

Your knees looked OK but I try to encourage extreme pushing outwards of the knees on the way up.

im not sure where the bar is resting but place it on your rear delts not traps.
^^Please don't do this.

Foot placement is largely up to you. Don't obsess over it. A good rule of thumb is slightly wider than shoulder width, toes at a 30-45 degree angle. Try to "sit back" into the squat a little more.

Bar placement also depends on your body structure and comfort. If placing the bar low on your traps causes you to lean forward too much, don't do it. Just put it where it is comfortable and allows you to reach depth without doing a good morning.

Your depth was fine. Lose the hat. Pick a spot on the wall and stare at it the whole set. When you come up from the bottom push your elbows forward. Take a huge breath before each rep, hold it, then let it out in a controlled manner on the way up. This will help you keep tightness.
 

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I'm not expert but that looked pretty good to me...

I like using a slightly narrower stance as I find it really helps me to use my quads a bit more. Your stance width looked fine.
 

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Foot placement is largely up to you. Don't obsess over it. A good rule of thumb is slightly wider than shoulder width, toes at a 30-45 degree angle. Try to "sit back" into the squat a little more.
Your nuts if you dont think foot placement is important !!! WTF how the hell can you go into a DEEP squat with your toes pointing straight ahead. OR wide for that matter ??? the closer the feet (and more of an outward angle) the lower you sink period.


Bar placement also depends on your body structure and comfort. If placing the bar low on your traps causes you to lean forward too much, don't do it. Just put it where it is comfortable and allows you to reach depth without doing a good morning.
ok to some extent this is true but for his leverages LOWER bar placement would be LESS sheering stress on his back than a high bar placement. The dude DOES NOT HAVE A LONG TORSO...

Your depth was fine. Lose the hat. Pick a spot on the wall and stare at it the whole set. When you come up from the bottom push your elbows forward. Take a huge breath before each rep, hold it, then let it out in a controlled manner on the way up. This will help you keep tightness.
you only address 1 issue and its not even an issue for the OP DURING the making of his video. pushing the knees outwards is taught by every respectable coach that everyone on this board follows.

Pie in the Sky = No comment get your weight up rookie

I like using a slightly narrower stance as I find it really helps me to use my quads a bit more. Your stance width looked fine.
See !! Not to mention it allows you to go DEEPER !! a wide foot placement would probably change where the emphasis was on your legs and how low you would be able to sink in the squat.
 

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Easy pardner.

The reason why I said 'dont do this' is you used the word "extreme" in two different contexts. Nothing about squat form should be extreme.

Foot placement IS up to the lifter. I know 600 lb squatters who squat both very wide and surprisingly narrow. Newbies will listen to all this different advice about foot placement find squatting difficult, until one day they just put them where they feel right and they like squatting again. I'll give you the outward flaring of the knees, but this is more of a cue to help recruit power from the glutes and hams. Pointing the toes at an 'extreme' outward angle overly recruits the adductors. Pointing them straight forward is asking for knee problems. Yes, you can easily reach depth with the feet close and ducked outward, but this is not a good way to squat long term and it shouldnt be taught to a newbie.

Regarding bar placement, I think mid-trap is best if you aren't squatting with equipment, but some guys like it a little higher or a little lower. Too low will just make him hunch forward and do a good morning.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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One of the best ways to really learn form is to find a powerlifting gym in your area have the guys check your squat,dead,bench,military press....you'll learn A LOT. Even better if you join it.
 

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Pie in the Sky = No comment get your weight up rookie
I hope that's a joke. If the OP is getting his blood flowing from 5 reps at a relatively light weight w/o 100% form he doesn't need to move up in weight. He is only increasing his chance of injury by upping the weight.

Without 100% form you aren't lifting weights,you just throwing them around.
 

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Your right Colossus, I was actually speaking to OP the way I talk to my clients, using verbal cues...there is no excessive or extreme actions in the movement but when I use those cue words it helps my clients to correct there technique.

I sometimes forget in the online world things can get misconstrued and misunderstood very easily.

To blinkwatt101, WTF are you talking about ??
 

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blinkwatt101 said:
I hope that's a joke. If the OP is getting his blood flowing from 5 reps at a relatively light weight w/o 100% form he doesn't need to move up in weight. He is only increasing his chance of injury by upping the weight.

Without 100% form you aren't lifting weights,you just throwing them around.
Call me lazy, but throwing around weights is WAAAAY more fun than actually lifting them. I LOVE lifting explosively... I believe there's a place for both explosive and controlled movement in fitness. Lifting rather than exploding is probably a lot safer and arguably more productive for hypertrophy, but I believe strength gains come w/ more explosive lifting.
 

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Fuglydude said:
Call me lazy, but throwing around weights is WAAAAY more fun than actually lifting them. I LOVE lifting explosively... I believe there's a place for both explosive and controlled movement in fitness. Lifting rather than exploding is probably a lot safer and arguably more productive for hypertrophy, but I believe strength gains come w/ more explosive lifting.
It's all about different strokes for different folks. :p
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Your form looked good to me. Your chest is lagging behind a little on the way up, but it isn't too serious - just work on your core.
 

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Don't look down.Why'd you keep lokking at your feet.To much curvature in your spine,to fast and jerky
 

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Looks good to me.

WTID... he was looking up the whole way, nowhere near his feet, not sure what video you were watching mate.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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