"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Spread the Word...SoSuave

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As short as possible:


I'm in the library computer at school reading spiritfingers' blog. Then one of the teachers logs in as an administrator. There is an option where she could see everyones' screen. Then she says, "Vulture, what are you reading?" I ignored her, erased the history, cookies, cache, and everything possible, then I logged off, and asked her questions about AFS club, to distract her. As I'm leaving she says, "AFS club is next week, o and stay out of trouble."


What a B*tch. That was totally an invasion of privacy. I could have been reading an important e-mail and then she goes and reads private info.

Anyway, I'm a little worried that sosuave is going to spread, because she saw the website and everything. I hope she doesn't search the site or anything right now.
What a day...:confused:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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:crackup:who cares bro, it's not like your gona try your game on her :crackup:
 

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She doesn't give a sh*t about what you were reading. All she cares about is whether or not you were doing something wrong.

Forget about it.

~Vibe~
 

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I just don't want to have the possibility that more guys will become DJs because of me. Why would we want more DJs?
 

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Originally posted by Vulture
Why would we want more DJs?
to save our selvs, and the whole male kind:confused:

i was actually thinking of making buisness cards with notting but the website address oh them and giving them out to phatethic loosers in bars.

haw many billions of people are on this planed?

there are only 18 200 member to sosuave.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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almost perfect

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there is no reason to not want more DJs in the field (unless you're afraid of competition). I'd much rather have DJs out in society than a bunch of guys who masterbate all day and are afraid of their own shadows.
 

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Well I for one think that your teacher might enjoy some of the posts and comments :p. You never know maybe she is a DJ as well ^^. And besides is not like she is going to bust your balls for reading advice on women? There is nothing wrong with learning new things :p... but the real question remains... Is your teacher hot?

Ne way keep rockin' guys
 

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non DJs are the reason alot of these girls are turning bisexual or lesbian.
I wish my friends were djs so they wouldn't be yelling out of my car window "hey....hey girl can I come home with you?" its funny for a while but I mean damn.
 

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there is no reason to not want more DJs in the field (unless you're afraid of competition). I'd much rather have DJs out in society than a bunch of guys who masterbate all day and are afraid of their own shadows.
like 17600 of the 18200 members here!


spread the love of SS :)

and the other betterment sites
 

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Yeah. Is she hot?

Wishing to keep DJ a secret and establish elitism strikes me as a feminine impulse. Why should anyone want to keep the AFC's out there in the dark? It's an unconstructive attitude.

Would you not help your friends? AFCdom is a malaise and injustice that affects most men, and you owe it to them all to help them out of it, or you can hand your manhood in at the desk.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by spider_007

i was actually thinking of making buisness cards with notting but the website address oh them and giving them out to phatethic loosers in bars.
And have more crap on this site?


If we are going to have AFCs on this site I would much rather have those who made the effort to change their lives and set out to find this site. At least they have the motivation to change.

I don't want AFCs here who are just given everything. They have no motivation or appreciation for it.

If they are going to change they need to have the will and desire to change. If they went and search for this site, that's the first step which shows that they have a desire to change.
 
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