"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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spinster: "The only kind of men that date and marry women that are substantially younger than them are insecure men"

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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BaronOfHair

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I must concede, she has a point: I'm not secure in the notion of a broad who's in her 5th decade of life(or older), and who's got multiple divorces to her name, being nearly as enjoyable as a bubbly 20 year old likely is. I'm not secure in my conviction that the former WON'T turn out to be an embittered crone, who's idea of fun = Kvetching to everyone in ear shot over how mean the world has been to her
 
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I must concede, she has a point: I'm not secure in the notion of a broad who's in her 5th decade of life(or older), and who's got multiple divorces to her name, being nearly as enjoyable as a bubbly 20 year old likely is. I'm not secure in my conviction that the former WON'T turn out to be an embittered crone, who's idea of fun = Kvetching to everyone in ear shot over how mean the world has been to her
This. Let's be real, what male in his 50s would want a 20 year old woman??
 

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This. Let's be real, what male in his 50s would want a 20 year old woman??
Other way around: I'm saying that very few are going to find a 50something baby mama, who's been piped out a few million times, remotely desirable. Indirectly, you make a point though: At a certain, pursuing 19-20 year olds does get creepy
 

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Total nonesense. I remind them that they preferred older guys when they were in their twenties. That I prefer younger women now. It's just a preference. I can't help what I like. Sometimes I might add that there are plenty of older guys available to them now.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Attraction is a reaction and not a choice. Unless that attraction involves the violation of someone else's rights, it's none of anyone's business.
 

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No man would ever say this.
 

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Older women just say this in an attempt to eliminate the competition by shaming/guilt tripping men.

This. Let's be real, what male in his 50s would want a 20 year old woman??
If by want, you mean sleep with, 100% of men.

I do think it's pretty unusual for a 50 something man to date or marry a 20 year old, but it's not any less weird than a 50 year old man wanting to marry a haggard, bitter, post menupausal 50 year old with a divorced pvssy that's been stretched out by 40 men and 2 kids.
 

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a 50 year old man wanting to marry a haggard, bitter, post menupausal 50 year old with a divorced pvssy that's been stretched out by 40 men and 2 kids.
The typical 50 year old man has a blue pill ideology towards intersexual dynamics and interactions.

The typical 50 year old man is pursuing women near his own age who are likely single moms and divorced. The notch counts of the 45-50 year old women he is pursuing are debatable but her baggage is not.

It's also unknown how much baggage the 50 year old man has. He might have kids from prior relationships and a divorce.
 

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Women who hold this view should be asked about their own sexual history. What you’ll find amongst some of them is that they had “age gap relationships” of their own (eg, sucking and f-cking older men at ages we don’t want to know about—statutory grape). So some of this is projection.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tbh it’s the way at least in the US that I see most guys headed.

Just look at the current administration and the frenzy of quadrillionars. All them have wife’s that are bought and paid for with a generational gap in between.
 

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For her I'd wear a T-shirt to bed:
Opinions are like orgasms..jpg

Seriously, who takes these bitter cat ladies seriously?

Next up, Grandma Moses opinion on dating and relationships. :rolleyes:
 
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