Spinning plates vs LTR

[Rainman4707]

To the guys who don't want a LTR, the guys who prefer to "spin plates" -

I can see the appeal of dating one woman for three months, then moving onto the next, but do you not get sick of wearing condoms? If you were in a LTR you woud'nt have to wear them.

 

[AllDay85]

Do both. LTR and spin plates during relationship

 

[Serenity]

I personally enjoy 2-4 month LTR's. I only go for ONS at parties, and then I really only want a BJ because a) I don't want to wear a condom and b) most girls who are willing to have sex within 90 minutes of meeting me probably have some nasty infection.

I wouldn't call 2-4 months a long term relationship, that's very short term.

I prefer a LTR because I have better things to do than to chase tails to get my needs satisfied, better to have someone around who doesn't have me doing this or that just for some pvssy. No need for the silly games, no need watching myself from spilling secrets, no bullsh!t. She's there for me, I'm there for her.

I feel more free being in a relationship. I felt trapped trying to spin plates, if I wanted pvssy then I'd have to behave in certain ways which I really really fvcking hate doing.

 

[RangerMIke]

Just date and don't worry about labels..... would rather wear condoms than agree to exclusivity.

 

[grayclif]

I wouldn't call 2-4 months a long term relationship, that's very short term.

I prefer a LTR because I have better things to do than to chase tails to get my needs satisfied, better to have someone around who doesn't have me doing this or that just for some pvssy. No need for the silly games, no need watching myself from spilling secrets, no bullsh!t. She's there for me, I'm there for her.

I feel more free being in a relationship. I felt trapped trying to spin plates, if I wanted pvssy then I'd have to behave in certain ways which I really really fvcking hate doing.

I'm leaning in this direction myself. When I was younger condoms didn't ruin the sensation as much. Pursuing sex and having to wear a condom just doesnt seem worth it to me anymore. Now that I'm older it takes a lot of work to bust a nut with a condom on. That's even if my **** even works with a condom on.

 

[Serenity]

Condoms wasn't really the main factor for my decision, but I do prefer not using it. I'm more into the emotional connection, I don't enjoy sex with women whom I don't feel connected with.

 

[Glumix]

Condoms wasn't really the main factor for my decision, but I do prefer not using it. I'm more into the emotional connection, I don't enjoy sex with women whom I don't feel connected with.

Pretty much the same here. Let's say I am exclusive until I meet somebody else.

 

[fastlife]

For me spinning plates is exhausting--I'll get a ton of momentum and then keep meeting more and more girls until I'm sick of all of them and have to take a hiatus from women in general. LTR's can be equally as draining and constricting, though the honeymoon is great.

What works best for me is to have my life goals as 'plates.' They get the bulk of my time, attention, and investment. When I find a girl whose company I enjoy and who fits into that without upsetting my other 'plates,' I'll have a fling for as long as she fits the picture. Usually, this can go on for a couple months. But I also keep a loose rotation of several other girls that are usually down to hangout, even if I don't see or talk to them for months on end, which prevents me from enduring dry spells.