Spinning plates or dating multiple women is overrated advice

[DJ Novice]

Spinning plates is fun…..until it isn’t.

Unless you have unlimited time, money, patience and energy the novelty will wear off eventually, especially if you are not getting much in return for your efforts or you don’t actually enjoy being around a woman from the s*x. Hedonic adaptation will mean what is new will become routine eventually.

While constantly chasing new bedroom experiences is a bottomless pit that will never be filled, I highly recommend it for guys out of a LTR or divorce for as long as you gain enjoyment from it (which in most cases will be time limited).

It helps build your confidence, creates an abundance mindset and helps you to understand female psychology and what aspects of women really are important to you apart from just the physical.

Sadly I have found not many women offer much value to your life beyond the bedroom and even in the bedroom department they may not be as compatible with you as you’d like them to be.

 

[Murk]

I agree with you OP, it’s a shame it took me a while to realise but my latter 20s and early 30s were a complete selfish self serving waste of time.

I’ve been saying for a while now on here that racking up a high notch count and spinning plates is damaging for us men. It’s not irreversible damage, but you don’t get that time and energy back.

 

[Chow Mein]

I agree with you OP, it’s a shame it took me a while to realise but my latter 20s and early 30s were a complete selfish self serving waste of time.

I’ve been saying for a while now on here that racking up a high notch count and spinning plates is damaging for us men. It’s not irreversible damage, but you don’t get that time and energy back.

I think a lot of men should realize that a ‘plate’ is someone who will make your life easier. If they are affecting your ambition and lifestyle, they should not be in the rotation.

 

[jhonny9546]

“Spinning plates” has its benefits. I’ve found that whenever I get out of an LTR, I typically do nothing and reset for a couple of months right after. Then, I will go for about 6-12 months of “spinning plates” and seeing multiple women at once. It’s exhilarating and helps me reset my brain to stop focusing on the one I just lost.

I do agree with others it’s exhausting at the same time, especially when there’s so much going on in my life outside of women and dating. Seeing 2-3 women at once requires time and energy. I typically start to look to trim it down to one woman after about the one year mark. But it certainly is always a fun ride and recommend it to anyone coming out of an LTR. I can see why some guys would always perpetually do it as well.

So you have developed a coping system when you leave relationships, you can get back on track right away!
That's a great thing!

While constantly chasing new bedroom experiences is a bottomless pit that will never be filled, I highly recommend it for guys out of a LTR or divorce for as long as you gain enjoyment from it (which in most cases will be time limited).

What about "chasing new bedroom experiences" with your LTR?

Simple. Combine young hottie with deep loving emotional connection. Those girls get wifed up young boys. And typically don't come back on the market unless the husband dies or does something dumb, like cheat.

And How do you spot those, other than they get wifed up young boys?

 

[jhonny9546]

Simple. Combine young hottie with deep loving emotional connection. Those girls get wifed up young boys. And typically don't come back on the market unless the husband dies or does something dumb, like cheat.

And How do you spot those, other than they get wifed up young boys?

 

[BeExcellent]

And How do you spot those, other than they get wifed up young boys?

Use your search cue and find the old thread How To Spot a Unicorn. Read through the first number of posts. That is the best answer I can give but I'd rather not retype it all.

 

[SW15]

How To Spot a Unicorn

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How to Spot a Unicorn

As many of you know I am a woman here on SS. Many of the threads I see here are perplexing. Men complain that they aren't getting the lay on the first date or two so they next, others get the lay on the first date and complain that they can't find a high quality girl (and argue that women who...

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How to Spot a Unicorn was a thread started in 2016 and has remained active over time.