"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Spinning not so hot plates?

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I have always had very high standards and since I'm not bad in the looks department and I have done quite well academically I've managed to get with a few high quality (average 8/9) girls as LTR's (what I'm personally looking for).

I get the feeling that the people on here would encourage me to go for a little more quantity over quality just for the spinning plate phase (possibly even to f-close just nothing serious) just to get up experience. Is this what you guys do?

An example is that I have a number from what I would not be interested in an LTR with and possibly not even sex, maybe a 6/7- above average but I'm just used to waiting it out for something higher - I take it you would suggests pursuing just to get practice up? So when the 9 comes along I'm not out of practice?

In which case - whats a good first text for the 6/7 i closed after not much comfort/attraction - not a very strong number I realise but I suppose I'll try (normally I just wouldn't bother).
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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LTR? Is she driving?

You'll probably get different answers from different DJ's on this one. My answer would be yes (although, I'd find closer girls). Spinning a couple 6's gives you experience (which there IS NO substitute for) and gives you a place you can test things to see how females react. You can gain some valuable info from a 6 and use it on a 9, assuming you know what you're doing.

I'm very much into quality--I may not even sleep with these 6's. But spinning a few dirty plates is still plate-spinning.
 

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Plus, in my limited understanding, you can use the attention that the dirty plates give you, when you meet that HB9 to both display scarcity and avoid oneitis, making you more attractive to the 9.
 

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It's all experience and learning which as alpha said there is no substitute for. Spin them plates!
 
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