"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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spinning multiple plates...how do you guys do it??

dj_china

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ok this is getting ridiculous.

every time I go out I'm getting at least 1 of my 4 plates texting/calling me about my plans and wanting to come out with me.

I have no freedom to sarge new girls, and it's getting increasingly difficult to keep my existing plates apart.

how do you guys do it??
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sounds like you need to prioritize which ones you want to keep, and which ones to drop to make room for new ones. There's only so much time in the day, unfortunately.
 

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zekko said:
Sounds like you need to prioritize which ones you want to keep, and which ones to drop to make room for new ones.
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THIS.
 

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dj_china said:
ok this is getting ridiculous.

every time I go out I'm getting at least 1 of my 4 plates texting/calling me about my plans and wanting to come out with me.

I have no freedom to sarge new girls, and it's getting increasingly difficult to keep my existing plates apart.

how do you guys do it??
You need to be honest with them, if your lying your going to cause yourself all kinds of stress
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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dj_china said:
ok this is getting ridiculous.

every time I go out I'm getting at least 1 of my 4 plates texting/calling me about my plans and wanting to come out with me.

I have no freedom to sarge new girls, and it's getting increasingly difficult to keep my existing plates apart.

how do you guys do it??
Pimpin' ain't easy. If you really have "4" women, then you're at the far end of what the average man is able to handle. You might consider dropping it to 3. I found I couldn't handle 4 and had to do 3, though 4 is incredibly fun.

And it's best to have women in various areas. If they all live close to each other then you run the risk of them running into one another.

Keep in mind that you're bound to lose 1 anyway because all women love attention and at least one will find that she's not getting enough and will dump you.

Good luck, keep spinnin'! Multiple girlfriends is definitely the way to go. I've been doing it since 2004 and don't think that I could ever go back to just one woman in my life.

Oh, and there's no way to be completely truthful to 4 different women you're dating. Show them the respect to not parade the other women in front of their faces. The men who tell you to always be 100% honest with women are not the ones who are multi-dating ;)
 
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