Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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donjuanjovi

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Keep up the good work spes :yes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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No problem. Any progress pics/measurements?
 

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Hey looking at your back day, your deadlifts, it seems as if you may not warm up correctly. Not sure if your including warm up sets or not as it looked like you might be. I may be wrong, and apologise if I am, but was just wondering what an average warm-up for deads looked like for you. Like how many warm-up sets before your worksets, and what rep range/weight etc, cheers.
 

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I'll have some progress pics up soon. Never took any measurements

As for deadlifts warmups, I have no idea if Iam working up correctly. What I do is 10 minutes of bike riding, then mobility stretches (those track and feild ones where you swing your legs) followed lots of dynamic stretching focusing on the hams/lower back. As for warm up sets, every set I do is in workout journal.

Let me know if there's room to improve, I really appreciate it, thanks quag.

Anyways:

bench press: 130:10, 130:5. Go up to 135. Work on incoporating your lats/core/trunk/legs.

sanding db sp: 40's. Stay at 40's, aim for 7-9 next time.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Quagmire911

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The link Simon posted is the precise link I was going to provide. I think when it comes to weightlifting stretching actually weakens the lift, heard it before and it said it on the box of weightlifting straps I got the other day. Stretching is good after, I'm sure ive heard people such as A-unit say. I am no authority on this by any means but until recently I wasn't warming up correctly either. Read that iron addicts article. There is a file attachment on the bottom of page 4 you can use for warm-ups but I think you need to be a member to download it. Here is a sample for a 290lb deadlift:

Warmups:

Reps Percentage Warmup Weight
12 Bar
6 40% 116
5 55% 159.5
3 70% 203
1 80% 232
1 90% 261
workset 5-10 100% 290 <-----Enter target weight here

Good luck.

P.s.-Don't think the table post's quite as planned but its just squashed up, pretty sure it can be worked out easily enough though.
 

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Dynamic stretching before weights, static stretching after.
 

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Awesome. I'll be sure to do as much of that as I can. My deadlift day is under time constaints, but i'll definatly warmup better now.

Like simon says, Regular static stretching is bad before workout, but dynamic stretch is good.
 

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squats: Do 150 next time. 5x5

Glut hams: 35x10. Go up to 40 next time. Stick to only one weight the first set. Emp stretch/thrust last two sets. Personal best
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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squats: do 135 next time.
-Bar stays over the heels. To keep it that way, only bring upper body forward, not hips or knees
-at bottom, flex/push with the quads. Force your legs to straighten by flexing the quads.
-dig head into bar, look up. Don't shift body/hips/knees forwards, just upperbody
-forearms perpindicular to ground.

Glut hams: 40-5. Keep at 25 on first set to complete 10 reps. Only do 10 reps first set, then 15 rep 2nd set. 3rd set 10 and 4th 15.
 

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bbbench: 135, 6, 5. Pinch lats, spread back on bench and make back push off bench.

BORS: 25+5's. Stay here.

SP: 42.5's. Go down to 40's.
 

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deads:

warmup
290x5
290x5
Cool down.

Pull back more, using upperbody as a counter balance, and making the lift feel more dead. Do 260-265 for 1 rep warm up before 290. Do same for cool down too.

Glut hams
4 sets. No pr.
40's 5, then 25's 5.

Hise shrug:
start with 25's and add 10-15's.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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squats 150x10, personal best. Good form. Next time try 150x15.
Checklist:
-straighten legs with quads
-harden body
-push through heels
-Keep bar over heels by moving upper body forwards, not knees or hips
-dig head into bar, go straight up.

glut hams:
140x6. then 25x4. Personal best.
Remember to warm up with 25's next time.
For 3rd set, maybe start with 15's.
 

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no dl's cuz of knee

BORs

reverse hypers( stretch hams after each set)

Hise shrug: went up to 175.
Next time start at 25's and increment by 15's
 

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Hey man, nice work :up: You been doing the warm up's following the IronAddict post? Hope the knee isn't much of a problem, good luck with it.
 

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Sure did. Also did a similiar thing for my squat, I believed that warmup style contributed to the recent PR.

Hopefully my knee isn't a problem. It was hurt while 'testing' its flexability in BJJ. Feels fine as long as I don't hit it. Hopefully its recovered by my squat work out tommarow.
 

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wasn't up to a squat pr, I got 3 hours of sleep last night. Went very light today

squats:

shoulder press 40x5x3

reverse hypers: next, use no weight on first and last ones.

glut hams

grip training, next time try to hold 85's or 90's.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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