Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Spending all my spare time on game. How do you avoid relationships?

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Work 40 hours a week. train 7 hours a week. sleep 56 hours a week. That leaves me 65 hours. minus 15 hours for other crap gives me 50 hours a week to dedicate to game. I got one hoe I talk to on the phone atm. I can ring her anytime. make her giggle. I can start moaning. she starts moaning. we have a good time. She doesn't like me talking to other girls. hangs up sometimes when I say im talking to other girls. it is what is is. I don't take it to seriously.

I just wanna party/socialize and have sex with it. none of this relationship crap. I don't drink alcohol.

all these girls want relationships though it seems. I'd rather have friendships with the girls. do **** activites and stuff. I would even bang hookers and then ring up a girl to come over and play chess. I don't give a ****.

how do you stop the girls from getting jealous of you with other girls? Even in the club im making out with one girl and then another girl I see is looking so I go up to her and makeout. the other girl sees it and is kinda mad. Again I didn't take her crap seriously and sort of shrugged it off without saying a word.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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how do you stop the girls from getting jealous of you with other girls?
Seems to me the kind of guys who are dedicated to that kind of lifestyle don't give a crap if the girls get jealous or not. If they get so upset to the point that they spin out, then they spin out. Takes a certain amount of ruthlessness, and an attitude that you're just having fun.
 

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Work 40 hours a week. train 7 hours a week. sleep 56 hours a week. That leaves me 65 hours. minus 15 hours for other crap gives me 50 hours a week to dedicate to game. I got one hoe I talk to on the phone atm. I can ring her anytime. make her giggle. I can start moaning. she starts moaning. we have a good time. She doesn't like me talking to other girls. hangs up sometimes when I say im talking to other girls. it is what is is. I don't take it to seriously.

I just wanna party/socialize and have sex with it. none of this relationship crap. I don't drink alcohol.

all these girls want relationships though it seems. I'd rather have friendships with the girls. do **** activites and stuff. I would even bang hookers and then ring up a girl to come over and play chess. I don't give a ****.

how do you stop the girls from getting jealous of you with other girls? Even in the club im making out with one girl and then another girl I see is looking so I go up to her and makeout. the other girl sees it and is kinda mad. Again I didn't take her crap seriously and sort of shrugged it off without saying a word.
Why do you care? As long as she's chasing, she'll keep f ucking you. Simple as that. Don't over-complicate things.
 

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if you spend 50 hours a week on game, you're going to develop the mindset that your happiness depends on women. which is toxic.

wasting that much time on women will eventually lower your SMV. as other guys are getting ahead, you're still stuck on a hole. i'm surprised that you have no other interests besides women. you don't like sports?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Shrugging it off is the best thing you can do. She can complain all she wants, but if she keeps coming back to you after you do that, then she has submitted to you. Which is what she really wants to do but can never admit to herself. Actions speak and words are cheap.
 

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if you spend 50 hours a week on game, you're going to develop the mindset that your happiness depends on women. which is toxic.

wasting that much time on women will eventually lower your SMV. as other guys are getting ahead, you're still stuck on a hole. i'm surprised that you have no other interests besides women. you don't like sports?
Wise words here. "Scouting" rather than "Hunting" should be your MO here. Go live your life so you are fulfilled and if there is a woman that piques your interest, engage her and see where it goes.
 

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Work 40 hours a week. train 7 hours a week. sleep 56 hours a week. That leaves me 65 hours. minus 15 hours for other crap gives me 50 hours a week to dedicate to game. I got one hoe I talk to on the phone atm. I can ring her anytime. make her giggle. I can start moaning. she starts moaning. we have a good time. She doesn't like me talking to other girls. hangs up sometimes when I say im talking to other girls. it is what is is. I don't take it to seriously.

I just wanna party/socialize and have sex with it. none of this relationship crap. I don't drink alcohol.

all these girls want relationships though it seems. I'd rather have friendships with the girls. do **** activites and stuff. I would even bang hookers and then ring up a girl to come over and play chess. I don't give a ****.

how do you stop the girls from getting jealous of you with other girls? Even in the club im making out with one girl and then another girl I see is looking so I go up to her and makeout. the other girl sees it and is kinda mad. Again I didn't take her crap seriously and sort of shrugged it off without saying a word.
I troll. I don't behave in a phaggotry manner in which monogamy is seeded. I am aloof. I am indifferent. I don't throw it out there in her face but simply don't ask stupid questions you don't want answers to.

I don't believe in monogamy. I once crushed a skank. Her bf thanked me for taking care of her.



Monogamy!

I don't seek it. I don't ask. Not my biz. Nor do I care.
 

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Isn't monogamy a type of wood? :lol:
 

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all these girls want relationships though it seems.
Advice from the old lady:

That's the key thing. If you DON'T want a relationship then follow @Glassguy's philosophy. Be up front that you enjoy her but you aren't looking for anything serious at this time and you are keeping your options open and enjoying seeing various women.

In other words don't lie or BS people.

Women get upset when you behave as though you are into HER and thereby set up expectations of progressing toward relationship and then you do something incongruent (like see other girls or pay attention to other girls right in front of you). For one thing that's just kinda rude. Think about it. Do you want some girl grabbing your package and grinding on you at the club or making out with you and then you turn around and she's grinding some other guy or making out with another man? (Aside from the fact that this shows her lack of behavioral standards and probably means she's a w h o r e)...Disrespectful you think? I think so. And you come off disrespectful to not only HER but to women in general if you behave this way. It's rather douche bag behavior. That's less of an issue/not an issue if you have been honest that you are not looking for anything serious. There are plenty of horn dog men in nightclubs that act like this. Lots of them are trashy pumper & dumper dudes who think they are mack daddies. Worthwhile girls are going to be turned off and you'll be left with the party girls and those with low or no standards (who sometimes think they are going to lasso you through hot sex and so forth...NOT)

But people generally do not like to feel as though they are being used or to put it another way, do not appreciate being disrespected. You don't like that, as most men don't. But guess what? Women don't like it either.

So you are either picking really insecure women who are clingy and on the crazy spectrum by nature OR you are not being transparent and you are leading women on for your own gain. That is douche behavior. Have more integrity than that.

Just my 2 cents from the trenches, having been a nightclub owner in days past.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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