Input and Comments.
I have only perused the surface of SS and other concepts like hypnosis. But what I can comment on from observing life, hookups, and sales as my profession is that how you say something is more important than what you say.
Ever notice a friendly interaction with a brother or friend that wasn't set out to be a joke, but broke out into a series of funny events?
It happens to me all the time. When I come home from work, or when I return from somewhere, or when it's hot and I'm strung out from lifting or yard work, I get into a mode, or a "state" and it just snowballs from there. No attempts are made at "what is said" just "how it is said."
Case in point...
I had a peer/mentor talk to us about communication and he described it like this...how you say what you say is of the utmost importance...and his example is as follows:
Him: Honey, you're so beautiful, that when I look at you, time stands still.
Wife: AWWWWW!
2nd Scenario
Him: Honey, you're so beautiful you have a face that could stop a clock.
Wife: Bastard, you're sleeping on the couch!
The difference being in the outcome our communication has on a party. At one time, you can pick a road to travel. How you travel what you travel is your choice.
I very much so love NLP, particularly for sales and human interaction. Not only has it impacted my life, but it enables me to impact others in business.
Ever heard the phrase..."you don't know what you don't know."
If you never heard of calculus, you can't possibly know it exists, nor can you comment on it. Then, the minute you hear 'calculus' you can begin to study it and recognize its existence.
The same with "states" in NLP. Until you're installed with the thought process that says how you feel is only matter of perception (no matter how many Human relations classes you took) it doesn't stick until we realize there's more to the brain and ourselves than standardized tests and astrology. You realize the brain is a tabula rasa, or blank slate, and can be programmed to work in anyway we want.
Does this mean SS works? Yes. All the time? No. Anything that works all the time is heresy. Nonsense. It would work, but a select times. Try going to an amped up club and pulling SS on some girls drinking heavily and tell me how it works. They're already sexed to the max, why try to effort something that has already been done for you?
Point is, study it, add it to your arsenal, and recognize when you can and can't use it. In time, such things will become a part of your subconscious mind and it will flow naturally from who you are.
I have a friend, who only studied minor part of hypnosis, but swears by his ability to get a woman to enjoy "eating his sperm" as he puts it. He has a very suggestible and soothing voice and is very in touch with feeling and thoughts, so much so he's excellent in sales. BUT, it's who he is. There's no efforting it on his part. It's a routine, his personality trait, and when he gets into a situation, this is the weapon he pulls out. Rather than letting her just enjoy the bj, he does things in such a way as to make her enjoy it the point of doing it often.
Anchoring works. Think of the last time you were with someone and something happened leaving you with a particular feeling about someone. My own case in point dealt with an attractive HB 6 Brunette. Met her on a meeting appointment. Wasn't sure what would come of it, but she was def a 7 in the bod, nice thick hips, sexual, and aggressive. HOWEVER, on our first rendezvous, which was also my bday, several things happened...
1. She showed up drunk at my hotel room, stammering around.
2. She had recently been in a fight and was covered in blood.
3. She was dressed like a hooker, so all my friends saw her naked.
4. In the morning, she had her period and forgot her feminine products.
5. After cleaning up, she wanted action on her period, only hours after all the preceding went down.
I probably would have tried more than kissing, but I haven't found a time when I could reanchor or reframe a better image of this girl. Consequently, she's raring to go when I see her, but all I recall is that night and the few incidents that have occurred after it. Too grossed out!
B.E.A.R.
