"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Speed dating

skinnyguy

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Wanted to see if you guys have any experience with this.

I've done it 3-4 times. The negatives:

1) The women look like trolls for the most part (hey that's why they're single I guess)
2) The women don't put down matches, for fear of being rejected by a guy
3) It's awkward and unnatural
4) You only have about 5 minutes to talk to the person
5) You don't really get to be alone with the girl
6) Most of the women say it's their "first time" doing it and they were dragged there by their girlfriends

My buddy told me the key is to ask for the number right away rather than wait for them to match with you. This was legit advice.

There are other, better events out there, like Lock and Key. I met some quality females there and a few of them showed interest.

Of course, meetup is the best because it's more natural and worst case scenario you make new friends.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Leashed

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The best thing to do at a speed dating event is get there a half hour before, build rapport with someone who interests you.

Instead of just the five minutes, you could have 10 extra minutes with 3 different girls that actually interest you before the whole thing starts.

If you've done well enough before the event begins when you have the 5 minutes with these girls and there's mutual interest you can take the next step right then and there. Ask them if they want to go for a drink right when the event ends, or go for the number close then when you're sitting across each other with the clock ticking.

I agree, it's awkward, but you've gotta look at the lead up to the event, and the post-event opportunities as your best chance to click with somebody.
 

Greasy Pig

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I've done three speed dating events and got laid that night at all three. Two of them were with one if the event hostesses. :D

From what I saw, most of the guys at these things are AFCs, nerds and pussies.
If you have any sort of game, dress to the nines, put on your cheekiest grin and go along. You'll be head and shoulders above 95% of the other men there.
 
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