"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Speed dating

skinnyguy

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Wanted to see if you guys have any experience with this.

I've done it 3-4 times. The negatives:

1) The women look like trolls for the most part (hey that's why they're single I guess)
2) The women don't put down matches, for fear of being rejected by a guy
3) It's awkward and unnatural
4) You only have about 5 minutes to talk to the person
5) You don't really get to be alone with the girl
6) Most of the women say it's their "first time" doing it and they were dragged there by their girlfriends

My buddy told me the key is to ask for the number right away rather than wait for them to match with you. This was legit advice.

There are other, better events out there, like Lock and Key. I met some quality females there and a few of them showed interest.

Of course, meetup is the best because it's more natural and worst case scenario you make new friends.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Leashed

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The best thing to do at a speed dating event is get there a half hour before, build rapport with someone who interests you.

Instead of just the five minutes, you could have 10 extra minutes with 3 different girls that actually interest you before the whole thing starts.

If you've done well enough before the event begins when you have the 5 minutes with these girls and there's mutual interest you can take the next step right then and there. Ask them if they want to go for a drink right when the event ends, or go for the number close then when you're sitting across each other with the clock ticking.

I agree, it's awkward, but you've gotta look at the lead up to the event, and the post-event opportunities as your best chance to click with somebody.
 

Greasy Pig

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I've done three speed dating events and got laid that night at all three. Two of them were with one if the event hostesses. :D

From what I saw, most of the guys at these things are AFCs, nerds and pussies.
If you have any sort of game, dress to the nines, put on your cheekiest grin and go along. You'll be head and shoulders above 95% of the other men there.
 
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