So a friend of mine talked me into going to a speed dating thingy tonight. I figure it won't hurt, and hey, we get free wine and beer!!! So anyways, do any of you have any speed dating experience? Can anyone give me some tips on doing this? I have no clue about the quality of the women I'll be talking to, but I meet with each girl for 8 minutes, which seems long for speed dating. Anyhow, any tips or advice would be much appreciated. Thanks.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Try to think up some original things to talk about. EVERY guy will ask the girls what they do for work, what they do for fun, etc. This gets old when 20 people ask you this.
In a similar vain, come up with some good answers to common questions you'll be hearing.
In a similar vain, come up with some good answers to common questions you'll be hearing.
I have NEVER done something like this. But, I can see myself having some success.
Why? Because I truly won't care. I would go there for the wine and to have fun. And let my personality (borderline cucky and with lot of fun) take over.
The odds are that at least one of about 20 women would like what she sees.
Another thing, I won't go alone. I don't have a problem going to places ALONE (such as nightclubs, etc.), because I tend to meet males there anyway (a woman see me talking with the bouncer, other cool people, and authomatically think that I KNOW those cool dudes too). But in a place like speed dating? I'm not there to mingle with guys (a nightclub is okay). So, bringing a couple of male friends (social proof) might be appropriate on this.
Why? Because I truly won't care. I would go there for the wine and to have fun. And let my personality (borderline cucky and with lot of fun) take over.
The odds are that at least one of about 20 women would like what she sees.
Another thing, I won't go alone. I don't have a problem going to places ALONE (such as nightclubs, etc.), because I tend to meet males there anyway (a woman see me talking with the bouncer, other cool people, and authomatically think that I KNOW those cool dudes too). But in a place like speed dating? I'm not there to mingle with guys (a nightclub is okay). So, bringing a couple of male friends (social proof) might be appropriate on this.
Whenever I'm in a position to join one of those things, I'll join in. Why? Because it's just another opportunity for women to see the difference between me and other fvcks. I mean, guys who go to that stuff have nothing on me. Neither do guys that go to the gyms, clubs, supermarket. Nor the guys walking on the street, sleeping, wherever, no guy has nothing on me. I'm excellence, and I'm raw.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Don Juan Montoya
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Dont ask the same bullsh1t that every other geek asks. Be different. I had crap luck w/ speed dating. Alot of chubbies. It seemed like alot of the chicks went there because they saw it in a movie & thought it would be fun. Or they went because there friend went & kept them company. Its not cheap too. $38 here in orange county...
Livinlifehard
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oh i am going now to one