"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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StarmanDeluxe

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I've got a lot of momentum going with this one girl, but there's a problem. It's summer, and she's about to leave for a 7-week vacation. I really want to cement this one down before she leaves because I know this girl is definite LTR potential and that is definitely what I want from her.

So, she leaves day after tomorrow. How can I ask her to hang with me for a while when she's (probably) busy getting ready? I mean, I think I can handle things once they're in place, but I dunno what to say to get together for the day. Any suggestions?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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NRM

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"Hey, looks like you're leaving soon, how about we go on a quick date and get some coffee or a bite to eat?"

If she's interested in you enough, she'll find an hour out of her schedule to chat with you over some coffee. If she gives you a raincheck for after, she's not interested in you enough to give up a day of packing and getting ready.

Depending on how hetic it is, you never know. But if you involve the word quick, you say quick and it means quick, then she shouldn't decline.
 

wh01987

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If shes leaving for that long and hasnt gotten into you that much then she most likely wont say yes (as in bf gf). She probably would rather be free and not tied down and would more likely say yes when she got back. Just take her on a "quick" date or whatever and try and call her cell while shes gone every once in a while or somthin
 

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wh01987 you are wrong, just because she is not in to him and is about to go on vacation, means nothing. She might not want to, or might not be ready to go further but the fact she hasnt does not necciserly mean so much, you can not conclude that with so little information given. Firstly do not start calling her so much because thats genrally a bad move. Sure going on a date would be good, then leave it and when she comes back pick up form where you left off and then you can ask her if you want a relationship.

hope ive been a help
 

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I suggest you dont ask her out until after her vacation.... if you ask her out before, it will be bad. 1... you wont get to talk to her much, so you wont have any time to build on the relationship at the beginning where it matters most... 2... on a 7 week trip, i wouldn't want to worry about her getting drunk and ****ing some guy.. women are scandalous... 3... it wont be as much fun for either of you since you'll both miss eachother more.... 4... just dont do it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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