Special Promo for SoSuave Members: 1-on-1 Coaching

[BPH]

First, I want to thank @SoSuave.com for allowing me to make this post. I know most of us have ad blockers on, and I think a direct post like this will land better than something spammy or intrusive. @Serenity, I was given the green light to share this here, so if you or the other mods want to see those messages, I’m happy to provide them.

As I've said before, I'm not good at business - but I AM good at getting laid...so maybe getting laid should be the business.

I wasn't joking.

This forum played a massive role in my early development and shaping who I’ve become. It’s been over a decade since I first started posting here, and I continue trying to give back by offering advice, sharing field reports, and answering questions when I can.

But if you’re someone who’s looking to take things a step further - to go beyond reading words on a screen, and willing to take action, to build real results, I’ve put something together for you: personalized 1-on-1 coaching with ME.

Why Me?

Many of you already know my story. I’ve slept with 101 women by the age of 31. I’ve also done it while living at home with my parents in suburban Delaware, making less than $50k a year (way less until recently), and driving around in a 2005 Prius with a busted headlight.

My journal has been immortalized in my signature with more than 10 years of field notes, mistakes, experiments, and progress. Feel free to take a deep dive into the cringe if you want to relive my rocky start.

The thing is, I was able to do this without a mentor, without guidance, and without resources - so I’d like to offer the chance to be that guide I never had for someone else.

What Do You Get?

For $100/month, here’s what I’m offering:

• Weekly 1-on-1 Zoom Calls
  • We’ll hop on a video call once a week for a full hour. We’ll go over what you’re working on - your goals, your problem points, and create your game plan. I’ll give direct feedback on how you’re coming across and help you course-correct in real time, along with assigning tasks between calls to move you in the direction of getting the results you desire. These calls are recorded and can be rewatched later for anything you want to revisit.
• Private 24/7 Access via Discord
  • You’ll get your own private channel inside my public Discord server - visible only to me and you. Ask questions throughout the week, send screenshots, voice messages, or field updates as they happen. This is your space to get help as you go, not just once a week.
• Money-Back Guarantee
  • The aim here is to build something that works, not to squeeze cash out of you all. If you show up to the calls, follow the action steps we set, and still feel like it wasn’t worth it by the end of the first month, just tell me and I’ll refund the $100. No drama. I’d rather learn what didn’t work than take your money without delivering, and get feedback to improve on this service for future students.

Who Is This NOT For?

I want to be really clear here - this is NOT a plug-and-play cheat code that’s going to get you instant results. This is about making real, sustainable changes to how you carry yourself, how you present to women, and how you navigate the dating world. You will NOT be fed one-size-fits-all scripts to handle every scenario. You will NOT receive copy-paste pantry-dropping “magic openers”. I will NOT lie to your face with the illusion of an overnight transformation.

It will take effort, and yes, you will likely fail multiple, multiple times before things start clicking. My job is to help you fail faster, smarter, and with a plan, so you'll be able to recognize and capitalize on success when you achieve it.

If you’re not ready to get outside, talk to women, and put skin in the game, this won’t help you. I’m looking to work with guys who take action.

What’s Required?

• You MUST be 18 or older
  • We’re dealing with real-world dating, sex, and seduction. I don’t want to worry about minors seeing or discussing any of this.
• You MUST have a webcam and a microphone
  • Our calls will be on Zoom. Looks matter. Voice matters. Mannerism matters. I’ll need to see and hear you to give real, honest feedback on what women are picking up when you approach them, and the degree to which I feel confident I can help you.

What’s Next?

If this sounds like something you’d benefit from, the next step is to schedule a quick call so we can see if we’re a good fit to work together.

Here’s the link to do that: Schedule a Call

I’m currently working with @nicksaiz65 , so feel free to ask him about his experience if you want a third-party opinion.

Right now, I’m looking to take on 2–3 more guys, whether they’re from this forum or not, to help shape the foundation of what this coaching program becomes.

Just know: there will be bugs. There will be adjustments. But that’s part of being one of the first. This is a Founder’s Offer - and the $100/month rate will increase as things get more polished and I take on more students.

If you’ve got questions I didn’t answer, feel free to drop them in the thread or shoot me a message. Otherwise, I'll continue to provide advice to those who need it for free, as I've been doing on this forum for so long.

Thanks again to @SoSuave.com for allowing me to toss this post up.

 

[Serenity]

All the moderators were already informed about this, it's all good.

 

[BadBoy89]

Many of you already know my story. I’ve slept with 101 women by the age of 31.

I don’t doubt you have slept with 101 women at 31.

But in a previous thread when it was discussed that most hot women between 18-29, the same women who are coveted by society, the same women who rich people want, the same women that powerful people want, the same women that every man wants and fights for, have slept with 70 men by the time they are 30, you went off and said it’s ridiculous, you said men who think like this are women haters, you said men who think like this are dense, you said an example based on personal experience doesn’t count, you said don’t be ridiculous.

OK, so if both of what you are saying is true, you are telling Sosuave that you, a man at 31 in 2025, are more in demand with the hot ladies than the hot ladies between18-29 are with the rich and powerful celebs and politicians and athletes.

That does not pass the logic test,

Either you have slept with 101 and most hot girls between 18-29 have slept with 70 men by the time they are 30 or you have not slept 101 women and most hot girls between 18-29 have not slept with 70 men by the time they are 30.

Either both are true or both are false. It cannot be either / or. Your pick.

 

[BPH]

I don’t doubt you have slept with 101 women at 31.

But in a previous thread when it was discussed that most hot women between 18-29, the same women who are coveted by society, the same women who rich people want, the same women that powerful people want, the same women that every man wants and fights for, have slept with 70 men by the time they are 30, you went off and said it’s ridiculous, you said men who think like this are women haters, you said men who think like this are dense, you said an example based on personal experience doesn’t count, you said don’t be ridiculous.

OK, so if both of what you are saying is true, you are telling Sosuave that you, a man at 31 in 2025, are more in demand with the hot ladies than the hot ladies between18-29 are with the rich and powerful celebs and politicians and athletes.

That does not pass the logic test,

Either you have slept with 101 and most hot girls between 18-29 have slept with 70 men by the time they are 30 or you have not slept 101 women and most hot girls between 18-29 have not slept with 70 men by the time they are 30.

Either both are true or both are false. It cannot be either / or. Your pick.

So your logic is that because most women choose not to be promiscuous, that somehow, this means I cannot be?

I'm not here to convince you of my credentials just because you can't wrap your head around it.

This post is for people who are interested in being coached to schedule a call or to ask questions related to this coaching program, neither of which you've done.

 

[Chow Mein]

I don’t doubt you have slept with 101 women at 31.

But in a previous thread when it was discussed that most hot women between 18-29, the same women who are coveted by society, the same women who rich people want, the same women that powerful people want, the same women that every man wants and fights for, have slept with 70 men by the time they are 30, you went off and said it’s ridiculous, you said men who think like this are women haters, you said men who think like this are dense, you said an example based on personal experience doesn’t count, you said don’t be ridiculous.

OK, so if both of what you are saying is true, you are telling Sosuave that you, a man at 31 in 2025, are more in demand with the hot ladies than the hot ladies between18-29 are with the rich and powerful celebs and politicians and athletes.

That does not pass the logic test,

Either you have slept with 101 and most hot girls between 18-29 have slept with 70 men by the time they are 30 or you have not slept 101 women and most hot girls between 18-29 have not slept with 70 men by the time they are 30.

Either both are true or both are false. It cannot be either / or. Your pick.

Chill my guy, OP is just scrapping $100 here and there to pay for rent in Delawhere?

 

[Hamurabimbi]

To be a legit dating coach, two things are required.

1) Successful.
2) Not handsome.

 

[BPH]

2) Not handsome.

I wasn't handsome growing up. This is the result of a series of choices:

• I go to the gym 4x per week for 1-1.5 hours, and a 5th time just for cardio
• I eat a very strict diet and have done so for years
• I practiced intermittent fasting before that
• I got LASIK to correct my near-sightedness, so I'd no longer need glasses or contacts
• I had braces in high school to straighten my teeth, and I continue to wear a night retainer
• I regularly shave, groom, cut my hair, and brush and floss my teeth

These are all things anybody can do to improve their appearance.

Not becoming a more attractive version of yourself is a choice, one that will lead to you being less successful. I became more handsome, I became more successful.

There's not a cheat code to this...

 

[Bokanovsky]

I don’t doubt you have slept with 101 women at 31.

But in a previous thread when it was discussed that most hot women between 18-29, the same women who are coveted by society, the same women who rich people want, the same women that powerful people want, the same women that every man wants and fights for, have slept with 70 men by the time they are 30, you went off and said it’s ridiculous, you said men who think like this are women haters, you said men who think like this are dense, you said an example based on personal experience doesn’t count, you said don’t be ridiculous.

OK, so if both of what you are saying is true, you are telling Sosuave that you, a man at 31 in 2025, are more in demand with the hot ladies than the hot ladies between18-29 are with the rich and powerful celebs and politicians and athletes.

That does not pass the logic test,

Either you have slept with 101 and most hot girls between 18-29 have slept with 70 men by the time they are 30 or you have not slept 101 women and most hot girls between 18-29 have not slept with 70 men by the time they are 30.

Either both are true or both are false. It cannot be either / or. Your pick.

I don't see where he claims to have slept with 101 hot girls in the 18-29 range. He said "I’ve slept with 101 women". It's like saying that you own a sports car. That doesn't necessarily mean it's a brand new McLaren or Ferrari.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I wasn't handsome growing up. This is the result of a series of choices:

• I go to the gym 4x per week for 1-1.5 hours, and a 5th time just for cardio
• I eat a very strict diet and have done so for years
• I practiced intermittent fasting before that
• I got LASIK to correct my near-sightedness, so I'd no longer need glasses or contacts
• I had braces in high school to straighten my teeth, and I continue to wear a night retainer
• I regularly shave, groom, cut my hair, and brush and floss my teeth

These are all things anybody can do to improve their appearance.

Not becoming a more attractive version of yourself is a choice, one that will lead to you being less successful. I became more handsome, I became more successful.

There's not a cheat code to this...

Are you handsome now?

 

[BPH]

I don't see where he claims to have slept with 101 hot girls in the 18-29 range.

I'd say most were hot. I've had a handful of drunken hookups or dry spells where my standards slipped a little, but never to the point where I was disappointed with myself or regretted it - I just didn't aim as high as I usually do. Most were within that range, but if I had to guess, I'd say somewhere between 10-15 were 30 or older.

Are you handsome now?

Yes...again, because I made choices that made me more attractive to the opposite sex...

You're never going to find some dude looking like a goblin with so much game to overcompensate for his looks that he's slamming 8-10s...unless he's wealthy or powerful, of course.

Like I said in the original post, looks matter. Thankfully, most factors that affect how you look are under your control. If you want to be ugly and think you're going to rack up 3 or 4-digit notch counts with attractive women, I'm sorry to disappoint you.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I'd say most were hot. I've had a handful of drunken hookups or dry spells where my standards slipped a little, but never to the point where I was disappointed with myself or regretted it - I just didn't aim as high as I usually do. Most were within that range, but if I had to guess, I'd say somewhere between 10-15 were 30 or older.



Yes...again, because I made choices that made me more attractive to the opposite sex...

You're never going to find some dude looking like a goblin with so much game to overcompensate for his looks that he's slamming 8-10s...unless he's wealthy or powerful, of course.

Like I said in the original post, looks matter. Thankfully, most factors that affect how you look are under your control. If you want to be ugly and think you're going to rack up 3 or 4-digit notch counts with attractive women, I'm sorry to disappoint you.

 

[characternote]

To be a legit dating coach, two things are required.

1) Successful.
2) Not handsome.

this lol.

I'm not hating, but based on what i've read here and there from the OP, he's a handsome guy who gets girls due to his looks.
And there's nothing wrong with that - everyone who is banging lots of hot girls is leveraging either good looks / money (sugar daddy game), or sometimes fame. There's no getting around it. There's no exceptions. There's no such thing as an ugly guy banging hot teenagers with a very high approach to lay ratio without one of them

The days of believing that 'game' and using the pushpull lines and cold reads etc to FORCE attraction in some stunning girl are well and truly gone. Nobody believes in that nonsense anymore. Especially when infield footage confirms everything so well!! Not to mention that everyoner has read all of the books. Game is mainstream. Everyone can download all of the most popular books and programs for free and test out the lines and stuff. And then they'll realise it doesn't work and will adopt the philosophy that seems to be promoted HERE on sosuave which is basically 'HIT THE GYM. MAKE MORE MONEY!!'.

That (hit the gym and make more money) is basically the only advice given here to guys stuggling to get laid, and probably rightly so.

It reminds me a bit like when James Tusk first came on teh scene. I remember on his first ever upload, there were comments like:
"hmmm....you're a TALL, jacked, facially handsome dude (bolded can't be changed but are super important). I don't think your students are gonna be able to replicate your results!" - and sure enough, he'd later go on to make all kinds of 'journey' vids with his various students, and none of them got anything like the reactions from girls that James got, despite the fact Tusk actually he pretty woeful game.

 

[BadBoy89]

So your logic is that because most women choose not to be promiscuous, that somehow, this means I cannot be?

I didn't say you cannot be promiscuous.

I said when you have slept 101 hot women and then dispute the fact that hot women under 30 have slept with 70 men, that's illogical.

Now if 100 / 101 women you have slept with are older than 30, fat, single mothers, ugly, or menopausal, I take it all back.

When you say "I choose not to be promiscuous", that's like saying "I choose to sleep with Sydney Sweeney"

Rock on!

 

[BPH]

this lol.

I'm not hating, but based on what i've read here and there from the OP, he's a handsome guy who gets girls due to his looks.
And there's nothing wrong with that - everyone who is banging lots of hot girls is leveraging either good looks / money (sugar daddy game), or sometimes fame. There's no getting around it. There's no exceptions. There's no such thing as an ugly guy banging hot teenagers with a very high approach to lay ratio without one of them

The days of believing that 'game' and using the pushpull lines and cold reads etc to FORCE attraction in some stunning girl are well and truly gone. Nobody believes in that nonsense anymore. Especially when infield footage confirms everything so well!! Not to mention that everyoner has read all of the books. Game is mainstream. Everyone can download all of the most popular books and programs for free and test out the lines and stuff. And then they'll realise it doesn't work and will adopt the philosophy that seems to be promoted HERE on sosuave which is basically 'HIT THE GYM. MAKE MORE MONEY!!'.

That (hit the gym and make more money) is basically the only advice given here to guys stuggling to get laid, and probably rightly so.

It reminds me a bit like when James Tusk first came on teh scene. I remember on his first ever upload, there were comments like:
"hmmm....you're a TALL, jacked, facially handsome dude (bolded can't be changed but are super important). I don't think your students are gonna be able to replicate your results!" - and sure enough, he'd later go on to make all kinds of 'journey' vids with his various students, and none of them got anything like the reactions from girls that James got, despite the fact Tusk actually he pretty woeful game.

What you guys seem to be ignoring is WHY I'm good-looking...

• I go to the gym 4x per week for 1-1.5 hours, and a 5th time just for cardio
• I eat a very strict diet and have done so for years
• I practiced intermittent fasting before that
• I got LASIK to correct my near-sightedness, so I'd no longer need glasses or contacts
• I had braces in high school to straighten my teeth, and I continue to wear a night retainer
• I regularly shave, groom, cut my hair, and brush and floss my teeth

I didn't just fall out of my mother's vag like this. I was tall, scrawny, had braces, had glasses, and was a relatively late bloomer to the point where I was frequently bullied, and the general opinion of my peers was that I must be gay...

I've stuck to habits like this for almost 2 decades now...like, yeah, you have to make some lifestyle changes based on what your goals are.

My goal was to choose the women I slept with and get laid a lot, so what did I do? I became the guy that women would want to sleep with a lot.

I don't understand why this is a point of scrutiny. I even say here:

I want to be really clear here - this is NOT a plug-and-play cheat code that’s going to get you instant results. This is about making real, sustainable changes to how you carry yourself, how you present to women, and how you navigate the dating world.

So if that's the expectation, I can't help you. You have to make changes to become a more attractive version of yourself. I find the easiest way to do that is to become more physically attractive, since it is the thing you have the most control over. If you disagree, that's fine, but I have a whole journal to back up the efficacy of that belief.

I didn't say you cannot be promiscuous.

I said when you have slept 101 hot women and then dispute the fact that hot women under 30 have slept with 70 men, that's illogical.

Now if 100 / 101 women you have slept with are older than 30, fat, single mothers, ugly, or menopausal, I take it all back.

When you say "I choose not to be promiscuous", that's like saying "I choose to sleep with Sydney Sweeney"

Rock on!

I don't know how to explain this in a way you'd understand it, so I'm not even going to try. You're clearly not interested in this program, which is what this thread is about, so please go elsewhere if you want to call women wh*res/assume I bang uglies.

This thread is getting off-topic. I'm reading more about people's skepticism than their questions.

I've only been working with @nicksaiz65 for 1 week, and he's already added a new lay under his belt after a 7-week dry spell. Ask him yourself if you'd like. He told me he plans to write up a FR about it when he gets some time.

If you want to write this off because I'm good-looking and you're not, that's fine. You are entitled to your opinion. But I'm offering you all to work at an hourly rate that's less than what I make at my job, and give you your money back at the end of the month if you don't feel like you're getting any value out of working with me...

If you don't want to get laid, don't get laid.

 

[Chow Mein]

this lol.

I'm not hating, but based on what i've read here and there from the OP, he's a handsome guy who gets girls due to his looks.
And there's nothing wrong with that - everyone who is banging lots of hot girls is leveraging either good looks / money (sugar daddy game), or sometimes fame. There's no getting around it. There's no exceptions. There's no such thing as an ugly guy banging hot teenagers with a very high approach to lay ratio without one of them

The days of believing that 'game' and using the pushpull lines and cold reads etc to FORCE attraction in some stunning girl are well and truly gone. Nobody believes in that nonsense anymore. Especially when infield footage confirms everything so well!! Not to mention that everyoner has read all of the books. Game is mainstream. Everyone can download all of the most popular books and programs for free and test out the lines and stuff. And then they'll realise it doesn't work and will adopt the philosophy that seems to be promoted HERE on sosuave which is basically 'HIT THE GYM. MAKE MORE MONEY!!'.

That (hit the gym and make more money) is basically the only advice given here to guys stuggling to get laid, and probably rightly so.

It reminds me a bit like when James Tusk first came on teh scene. I remember on his first ever upload, there were comments like:
"hmmm....you're a TALL, jacked, facially handsome dude (bolded can't be changed but are super important). I don't think your students are gonna be able to replicate your results!" - and sure enough, he'd later go on to make all kinds of 'journey' vids with his various students, and none of them got anything like the reactions from girls that James got, despite the fact Tusk actually he pretty woeful game.

You need to have charisma, not quite showing in OP

 

[characternote]

What you guys seem to be ignoring is WHY I'm good-looking...

it's gonna be your height and face (bone structure) doing all of the heavy lifting. Almost certainly
My ex wingman who was the slayer of slayers!!! (i'd put him up against anyone here!!) got so much attention because of his face. He wasn't even tall. He'd never stepped in a gym in his life (although i'll admit that he looked like he did. Genetically broad shoulders and big wrists etc. He nearly got called to the sprint team for England based on his times!)
Add in height too a handsome face and it's a killer combo
I guess if my mate had infields people would want him to 'teach' them how he does it, but I don't think that would help anyone, tbh

 

[BPH]

You need to have charisma, not quite showing in OP

If you don't want to get laid, don't get laid.

it's gonna be your height and face (bone structure) doing all of the heavy lifting. Almost certainly

If you don't want to get laid, don't get laid.

I thought approaching the board where I got my start, where guys are actively looking for the results I've achieved, would be the most sensible place to present this offer.

Maybe I was wrong.

If this is going to become a thread about the fact that we're not identical, and that you can't immediately looksmaxx your appearance to match mine, and that I could do this but for some reason YOU can't, then there's no reason to leave that response.

If there are questions about this program from people who are interested in it and are considering it, I would be happy to reply to anything that isn't already spelled out in the original post.

But if you are setting out to convince yourself that you can't achieve similar results because you do not look like me, then you probably wouldn't be a good fit anyway, in which case, it's best not to waste your time.

 

[characternote]

Just to say, i've got no issue. I've agreed with pretty much all of BPH's posts in the past from memory

I don't need any help personally. I've shared quite a few receipts on this site, both on public and in DM's with some posters who can vouch.

I of course can't compete with my handsome wing for example, but nobody else in my body, in my town, hitting on the same girls as me is gonna get much better results. And i'm about maxxed out in terms of looks (e.g my personal ceiling) as I can be. So yeah, I personally don't want or need help.

But I know that there are people who do and I have no issue with your service in terms of helping people to looksmax and stuff, which is what I assume you are doing. I already know a tonne about that stuff but for people who have no idea, I think it's a decent service

In fact i'd go as far as to say that I think at some point in the near future, 'dating coaches' will be way more about being a personal 'stylist'/fahion/fitness plan kinda role, as opposed to what we've had in the past where it's about teaching people cold reads and negs etc etc. I think the shift away from verbals and onto other stuff began a few years ago and I can only see it going more that way...

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Just to say, i've got no issue. I've agreed with pretty much all of BPH's posts in the past from memory

I don't need any help personally. I've shared quite a few receipts on this site, both on public and in DM's with some posters who can vouch.

I of course can't compete with my handsome wing for example, but nobody else in my body, in my town, hitting on the same girls as me is gonna get much better results. And i'm about maxxed out in terms of looks (e.g my personal ceiling) as I can be. So yeah, I personally don't want or need help.

But I know that there are people who do and I have no issue with your service in terms of helping people to looksmax and stuff, which is what I assume you are doing. I already know a tonne about that stuff but for people who have no idea, I think it's a decent service

In fact i'd go as far as to say that I think at some point in the near future, 'dating coaches' will be way more about being a personal 'stylist'/fahion/fitness plan kinda role, as opposed to what we've had in the past where it's about teaching people cold reads and negs etc etc. I think the shift away from verbals and onto other stuff began a few years ago and I can only see it going more that way...

Fashion and dressing nice helps, but lack of social tact/skills is what limits most people's ability these days more than ever.

I mean half the guys can't even hold a conversation for more than 5 minutes.

Guys are just so fvcking weird with how they behave it's almost like I can't even believe the stuff I hear over and over again because it seems so absurd but it happens so much that it's becoming the norm now.

Literally being and acting "normal" will get you laid at a higher rate than ever before these days because you are like an oasis in the desert to women.

 

[characternote]

I mean half the guys can't even hold a conversation for more than 5 minutes.

I tend to think that when you approach a girl and can't hold a convo for more than 5mins, it's just because SHE is not attracted and so she isn't pulling her weight in the convo at all! you're literally talking too a brick wall. In fact, me and my wings often have sets that last much less than that lol. (you see quite a few 30 second sets in infields actually) - No fault of our own. Girls don't want to encourage guys who aren't their type. But when I approach a girl and she's into me (and I have enough experience that I can tell within about 3 seconds!) then 'running out of convo' is never an issue for me or most guys I know.

Although i'm sure there are guys who can't hold a convo even when the girl is asking him loads of stuff and doing more than her fair share

Literally being and acting "normal"

But yeah, in terms of just 'being normal' I kind of agree. Many years ago I came to teh conclusion that 'game' is MOSTLY nonsense, and all you need is her physical attraction and to just be 'normal'. (as you say)