Special considerations for calling/setting up a date with/dating a stripper?

[squirrels]

LOL I never thought I'd have to ask this, but somehow I ended up with a stripper's phone # last night. Anyway, I'm probably going to wait until Sunday (3 days) to call her. The question is, should I play anything different? Places to go? Things to say? Etc? I don't plan on talking much about her job unless she brings it up...that's probably a good idea.

One thing that concerns me is the fact that I'm still living at home. She's like 19, so I don't think it matters that much, but I'm wondering if it could show bad for me. (No I'm not just bumming. I could've gotten an apartment a long time ago, but no equity in that. I've saved a significant chunk of change that I'm going to be using as a down-payment on a house in the next 3-6 months ).

Any thoughts, or just keep doing what I'm supposed to be doing?

 

[nan3109]

strippers are dirty sluts, it's their job to rub their *****s on guys.

just **** her with 3 condoms on it your desperate!

otherwise, go find another girl

 

[biobotz1001]

recommendation

I'm going to recommend making sure she is either wasted or continuously enterained. They seem to like to go out dancing. A normal stripper date seems to be inviting them over for something that can be played into something sexual, watching a movie at home together, swimming, etc, and then watching them get really high or drunk. I hope it all goes well, be prepared for some disfunction also.

 

[squirrels]

I don't know if she's a hardcore stripper like that...she's only been working there a couple weeks and (so she claims) she's only gonna be there until August. No one in her family/friends knows about it.

She seemed pretty new. It was all I could do to get rid of her and she STILL kept coming back to me. A real "professional" would've gone and worked where the money was.

 

[MDgood]

Originally posted by squirrels
LOL I never thought I'd have to ask this, but somehow I ended up with a stripper's phone # last night.

What club in B-more does she, uh, "dance" at? Dude, share the wealth! Does she have a friend?

 

[squirrels]

Re: Re: Special considerations for calling/setting up a date with/dating a stripper?

Originally posted by MDgood
What club in B-more does she, uh, "dance" at? Dude, share the wealth! Does she have a friend?

I'm not even sure I have wealth to share...all I've got is a number. I'd rather not tell anyone, "yeah, her name is XXXX and she dances at YYYY", if you know what I mean.

Question is, if I can hook up with this, how worried should I be about catching something? I wonder if she's done this before.

 

[MDgood]

Nah, I was wondering if she was at a place like Fantasy's in south Baltimore.

I would be careful... take a good look at the strippers around here. They're not what you call a "pure" crowd. Don't be surprised if she's got something.

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by MDgood
Nah, I was wondering if she was at a place like Fantasy's in south Baltimore.

I would be careful... take a good look at the strippers around here. They're not what you call a "pure" crowd. Don't be surprised if she's got something.

Or the Nexus Gold Club. Haven't gone there, but I heard some good things about the girls there...Just go about it as a normal date. Why should her job affect things?

 

[Unregistered]

Special considerations....well, this reminds me of a guy who was dating a porn star.

He asked her out on a Friday night, and she said "no, I have to work on Friday. How about Saturday?"

He said, "How about THURSDAY??"

 

[ShortyBrown]

Originally posted by squirrels
LOL I never thought I'd have to ask this, but somehow I ended up with a stripper's phone # last night. Anyway, I'm probably going to wait until Sunday (3 days) to call her. The question is, should I play anything different? Places to go? Things to say? Etc? I don't plan on talking much about her job unless she brings it up...that's probably a good idea.

One thing that concerns me is the fact that I'm still living at home. She's like 19, so I don't think it matters that much, but I'm wondering if it could show bad for me. (No I'm not just bumming. I could've gotten an apartment a long time ago, but no equity in that. I've saved a significant chunk of change that I'm going to be using as a down-payment on a house in the next 3-6 months ).

Any thoughts, or just keep doing what I'm supposed to be doing?

you are not dating a 3 headed monster. Treat no differently to any other woman.

 

[violator]

These types of emotionally damaged girls ( strippers, porn actresses, etc.) respond effectively to C+F and an occasional neg-hit. Anything to distinguish yourself from typical AFC behavior. In other words, act like a jerk but with a softer lining.

 

[LowPlainsDrifter]

Squirrells -

You're definitely doing the right thing by skipping the rent stage and going right for home ownership. Bravo!

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by Unregistered
Special considerations....well, this reminds me of a guy who was dating a porn star.

He asked her out on a Friday night, and she said "no, I have to work on Friday. How about Saturday?"

He said, "How about THURSDAY??"

Bwhahahahahahahahahahahaha!!! Now THAT is gold.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Re: Re: Special considerations for calling/setting up a date with/dating a stripper?

Originally posted by ShortyBrown
you are not dating a 3 headed monster. Treat no differently to any other woman.

Treat no different than any other woman? Are you kidding me? A stripper, a lawyer, a med school student, a rocket scientist, an import model...you're telling the guy that he should treat any of these women the same?? BLAH!!!

They aren't the same. Period. Women are different, with different life experiences and different expectations of their men. ShortyBrown, are you really telling me that you could treat EVERY SINGLE guy you've dated the same? Come on now.

I was a night club Disc Jockey and have friends who are dancers/escorts. It's a different woman all together. In a strip club, the life is fast paced. Lots of drugs, alchohol, wild times. These girls get hit on by wealthy men all the time. They're used to the attention and are always on a pedistal. However, strippers RARELY give their number out at work.

If the number she gave you isn't fake, than you have something special that raised her IL enough to give you the number.

I'd follow violator's advice on this one:
These types of emotionally damaged girls ( strippers, porn actresses, etc.) respond effectively to C+F and an occasional neg-hit. Anything to distinguish yourself from typical AFC behavior. In other words, act like a jerk but with a softer lining.

To your other question, are you more likely to catch something sexuallly? Unfortunately, yes. With the life of drugs, alchohol, raves, parties, wild-one night stand-sex happens a lot with these girls.

I'm sure there are exceptions to the rule for strippers who only do it to get through college or whatever...but, for the majority, I'd go with violator's advice on this.

 

[squirrels]

I don't know...from what she told me she's only been there a short time and is only going to be there until the end of summer. You can tell the way she works the floor that she's not as experienced as other strippers. I called her on this several times...there was an amateur stripper contest that night and I told her that I thought she was one of the contestants, not a pro...it was all I could do to get rid of her. Then she would leave and come back a little later and start at me again.

Toward the end of the night, she stopped trying for the lapdance and just started talking to me...I kind of started touching her, resting my arms on her legs and putting my hands on her back. I didn't go for any heavy stuff because I thought I might get "bounced" but she didn't seem to mind at all.

I didn't believe she actually worked there until she got up on stage...she was the last girl and last call came just as she was picking up her clothes and walking off-stage, so I called out to her to get her number and she GAVE it to me...right there on stage! I was like She said, "call in 2 minutes, I'll pick up", so I did, and she answered, so the number's legit.

The only thing that bothers me is that I may not be the first man she's done this with. She's only been there a couple of weeks, but I'm still a little leery of this whole deal. If she goes right for the d--k as soon as I meet her (assuming she even says yes to a date), I might have to eject on this one.

As all women should be when you first-date them, she is still being subject to scrutiny to see if she is "worth my time." The fact that she's a stripper works both in and against her favor.

 

[Oxide]

How about THURSDAY??

LMao i almost fell out of my chair!

You should get to know her better, may be she hasnt tunred into a dirty ho yet, then u got gold. Make her your gf, get her cash, get the goods, and split.

 

[racerX]

Keep in mind that strippers have an uncanny ability to manipulate people. They are selling a fantasy at the strip club & guys that go there expecting more than that are asking for trouble. When dudes go to a stripclub there defenses are down. The alcohol & dark lights enable strippers to zone in on a dudes feelings really quick. (also, alot of strippers decide to strip for a "few months". But the $$$ is so easy that they end up doing it for years.) This is what usually happens when a stripper gives a guy a #: after you guys go on a date or two, she will start telling you a sob story: it will usually involve a bitter custody battle over her son or daughter or a sick parent or sibling she is tending & the high cost of doctors or attorneys. Strippers are extremely clever at making this stuff up. They use there charm, wit & charisma to make you beleive in this fairytale. Or it could be true. After she makes you feel sorry for her desperate situation, she will ask you for a loan. It could be $500 or maybe $2000. She will set this amount according to how lonely, rich & sucessful you are. By now, she has established a friendship w/ you, you know about her personal life, you feel sorry for her sad situation & deep down inside you want her life to get better somehow, someway & you loan her the $$$$ thinking that you are a good samaritan & this will only increase your chance of getting some pvssy from her. Then you loan the $$$ to her. Little do you know that in the meantime she is doing the same thing to 4 other dudes. Eventually you will ask her for the $$$ back & BAM!!! She either will tell you she wont be able to do that or her attitude towards you will change significantly. This doesnt happen all the time, but it does happen. Beware. These girls are highly skilled at this craft.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Oxide
How about THURSDAY??

LMao i almost fell out of my chair!

You should get to know her better, may be she hasnt tunred into a dirty ho yet, then u got gold. Make her your gf, get her cash, get the goods, and split.

That's the plan. Dont' worry, I don't loan women money. If I sense drama, this one's gone. She didn't even really impress me that much, but she is good looking and seems to be a pretty happy person...she didn't come on real strong like the other hos.

 

[Livingitup22]

I've had some experience with exotic dancers. My girl-friend stripped for awhile a couple years back and several of my friends have dated--or are dating-- dancers. Never exclusively dated one myself, though I have had a couple delightful romps with them.


A great deal of what these other posters say is true. Strippers are a wholly unique group of women, but even with them it doesn't pay to generalize. Most dancers fall into one of the following categories:

1.Relatively normal girls who use dancing as way to get ahead, to put themselves through school, start a business etc.

2.Party Girls for whom dancing is an appropriate career to mesh with their wild lifestyle

3.Desperate girls with little marketable job skills who feel they need to dance to support themselves, their family, expensive tastes, drug habit etc.

It's unfortunate that a large majority of strippers fall into the last two categories. They're damaged goods and most of them have a chip on their shoulder when it comes to men, so watch yourself. Sounds like your girl, squirrles, hasn't been dancing long enough to get too acclimated to the strip-club subculture, but the longer she dances, the harder it is going to be for her to stop. She's also pretty young, so all of this may not apply.

As far as strippers being golddiggers, my experiences suggest, in fact, the opposite is often true. Yeah, obviously some girls are extremely greed-driven, and the dollar signs in their eyes will likely never fade, but I've heard more than a few dancers say "I make enough money for myself" or "I really don't care what a guy makes as long as he's employed and likes his job." Lip Service? Maybe. But if she is making $3000 a week or more, searching for a guy to leach off of when the Median Job in the US economy pays somewhere around $27,000 a YEAR may prove to be a time-consuming and ultimately fruitless pursuit. I found most dancers with Bf's were partially or completely supporting them financially

Okay, so this is kind of irrelevant information at this point since you're only at a first date. What can I tell you? First, Dancers HATE weak, sensitive guys, even more than your average gal! They seem to dig C+F and an Assertive attitude, and they may provoke a confrontation to see if you've got any balls. But they also put up with alot of macho BS, so showing you have a kinder side to you seems to pull their heartstrings more than the typical HB. Just No Poetry!! lol Don't fawn over her good looks. That'll get you nexted or LJBF very quickly. By the same token, don't ignore her sexuality, it's a very prominent part of her personality. Notice the contradictions? Just like most women, only to a more frustrating degree.Think of strippers as Femininity-On-Steroids.


As for what kind of date, at least part of it should be an action
date. These girls bore easily. Their job is as much about what comes out of their mouths as their bodies, so, while the ability to carry on a conversation is a small plus, they're pretty immune. Best advice I can give:

GO OUT AND HAVE FUN

Establish yourself as a fun guy to be around, and, even if she ends up not interested, word will spread, and having a stripper-friend is a gold-mine of opportunities, believe me.Good Luck!

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

About the only advice I can give is that it would be tacky to pay for anything with one dollar bills. Other than that, your situation is rather intriguing. Let us know how this goes.

and always remember, a wise man once said, ". . . "!

-CyranoDeBergerac