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well, read some stuff about talking less is good b/c

1)chances are u wont say something stupid
2)your words become rare therefore more valuable

but my query is:

how to speak less but not seem like the quiet guy that just sits there and looks shy?
or
the grumpy kid who walks around looking confident and what not, but doesnt talk to ppl?

stupid question, but wanted to hear some input on it.
 

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"The best conversationalist is the person who can get the other person to talk."
now who can tell me who first said this brilliant quote? :)
 

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Originally posted by aBAzLLnA
well, read some stuff about talking less is good b/c

1)chances are u wont say something stupid
2)your words become rare therefore more valuable

but my query is:

how to speak less but not seem like the quiet guy that just sits there and looks shy?


Just talk and dont worry if you appear shy. If you start convos you wont appear that way. It would just make you appear more mysterious


or the grumpy kid who walks around looking confident and what not, but doesnt talk to ppl?

Dont walk around looking grumpy. Walk around with a little smile like you got a secret no one knows.
 

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Most DJs already know this. No need to put it up for the 100th time.
 

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AMS summed this up very well, you basically "talk yourself out of the poosey" by saying something stupid.

This has happened to me a lot, and I really need to learn to make the woman do most of the talking.
 

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AMS summed this up very well, you basically "talk yourself out of the poosey" by saying something stupid.

This has happened to me a lot, and I really need to learn to make the woman do most of the talking.
Yeah sometimes the guy is doing well but suddenly says something that turns her off.

Other times, the guy can “over-game” her. It’s where the chick is totally into the guy and pretty much ready to leave with him, but the guy (doesn’t realize this and) just keeps talking and eventually bores her and/or friendzones himself. He continues to talk to her for another hour when all he had to do is invite her to see his new fish tank at home lol.
 
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Speaking is good if and when it is romantic and conducive to getting the pvssy wet. I find talking about traveling is always a safe one, for example. Otherwise, talking about your rock collection is the opposite and will dry up the pvssy fast.
 

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well, read some stuff about talking less is good b/c

1)chances are u wont say something stupid
2)your words become rare therefore more valuable

but my query is:

how to speak less but not seem like the quiet guy that just sits there and looks shy?
or
the grumpy kid who walks around looking confident and what not, but doesnt talk to ppl?

stupid question, but wanted to hear some input on it.
A lot of guys put their foot in their mouth s9, less is more. I have the gift of gab. Million dollar mouth piece. there still comes a time to stfu and pull.
 

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how to speak less but not seem like the quiet guy that just sits there and looks shy?
or
the grumpy kid who walks around looking confident and what not, but doesnt talk to ppl?
Let her do the talking. Act interested, ask her questions about the stuff she talks about.
If the topic runs dry, say a few sentences, change the subject and let her talk again.

Women love to talk about themselves.

Also, dont dish out to much about yourself..... stay mysterious , keep them guessing about you.
 

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AMS summed this up very well, you basically "talk yourself out of the poosey" by saying something stupid.

This has happened to me a lot, and I really need to learn to make the woman do most of the talking.
I'm not even mad you resurrected an 18-yr-old thread :p This is because I also recently heard these discussions by AMS, and it got me thinking...
Thing is I have an extroverted personality and I like talking! Not in the goofy/corny type as AMS describes, it's just that being silent in a date, where some b!tch talks about the shoes she got, sounds very boring..
I guess it comes down to finding the right balance, and/or gearing the discussion towards interesting topics.
 
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a lot comes down to how you hold yourself, are you being congruent with who you are, how you hold yourself etc

you can still show charisma without saying to much. if you're just sat there looking bored or dumb, particularly if not good looking it's safe to say she won;t find you particularly attractive.

same if you're constantly talking, but in a goofy, clown type way it's probably not going to come across well, again, particularly if not physically attractive.
 

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a lot comes down to how you hold yourself, are you being congruent with who you are, how you hold yourself etc

you can still show charisma without saying to much. if you're just sat there looking bored or dumb, particularly if not good looking it's safe to say she won;t find you particularly attractive.

same if you're constantly talking, but in a goofy, clown type way it's probably not going to come across well, again, particularly if not physically attractive.
Agreed! Thinking about it, I've occasionally been in both extremes over the years.

I remember a date with a Portugese chick that wouldn't shut up, I was bored and I think it showed. Needless to say, nothing happened.

And of course there's the overgaming mistake, that I think most of us have made in the past. I think the socially conditioned belief that you have to impress the girl is largely to blame for this.
 
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