"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Speak the language... (BODY)

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So its basic, i believe its evident what body language is. I mean, I dont know exactly all of these languages and everything, but the basic ones.

Fixing herself, smile and facing you are some of the basic yet biggest signs if she is really interested in you, right?

So speak it! How?

Make it known! You can't be going around waiting for IOI's (Indications of Interest) all night or all the time, right?

Here's something better to do.

Dress real nice. I had custom tailored suits, black pants, and custom long sleeved shirts, bought my first rolex maybe 3 months ago or so, gel ur hair up or shave ur head bald whichever looks better.

Just look neat and presentable. And then... Speak the languange.

Pop your collar, fix yourself, face her, let it be known you are attracted to her. If she reacts with the same, faces you smiles or fixes herself or any other positive body language which includes pro longed eye contact, then make the move. Walk to her in an evading manner (diagonally) and speak with her.

IMO it doesnt really matter that much what u say from there. Just dont say something offensive or stupid.

Say something in the lines of "Hi! Whats your name? Mine's Michael" Shake her hand, Dance or whatever. Speak. Get number. Bail after rapport.

Just thought I'd share, its really sky rocketted my chances of cold approaching. Thanks for reading. :)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Shezz said:
Yeah but dude - you just posted in General about how your Follow up game was crap and how girls were uncomfortable around you. Either your BS'ing or your not sarging the girls for LONG enough before you close them. If your gonna do a quick number close, you have to have MAD phone game for after the approach - otherwise your just gonna get another flake.

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Hi Shezz. Since back then ive been a good reader of ur posts. Anyway, if u reread my post there, I said I used to have an OK game and could close HB8s

In any case, I'm really new to COLD approaching at clubs. And u are right... I need mad phone game. I hardly even speak with them. All I do is introduce myself, etc etc.. maybe ask where she works/studies.. thats about it before I # close. :eek:

Do you have any suggestions on what to talk about? I mean its really loud in there.

And yea, what would be a good thing to talk about. I really suck at building rapport.

However I am pretty goodlooking + nice car and money, i have all the equipment basically, I just dong know how to use them. :(
 

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^ Thanks man shezz. U got PM dude. Verbalizing lower value must work. It's like down playing. Yeah, I got gold diggers on my ass all the time.
 

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I dont agree. Self confidence, is not bought.

I could go and get some tidy clothes from any cheap shop. why would i want to cover myself in things that are trying to make me feel better about what i look like.

Dress real nice. I had custom tailored suits, black pants, and custom long sleeved shirts, bought my first rolex maybe 3 months ago or so, gel ur hair up or shave ur head bald whichever looks better.
Did you do this cause you like the expensive life, and are well off.
Better advice would be just to feel comfortable in your skin, and tidy and presentable.
You dont need rolex's and tailored suits costing thousands of dollars.
Plus id say it really depends where your going to look for what you want, this wont work everywhere.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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