"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Spaz, can you elaborate on this?

Jager

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 12, 2019
Messages
238
Reaction score
278
Age
35
“The ability to toggle between a Prince and a Caveman is key towards being successful with women.”

I’m curious about this. Let me give you my thoughts on this first, though. If by Prince you mean a degree of self interest (for lack of a better term) and by Caveman you mean masculine and aggressive, does whatever he d*mn well pleases, then I can build a concept of the statement. But, I think there’s more to it than that.

Explain it to me, sir.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

stovepipe

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 12, 2017
Messages
965
Reaction score
1,084
PM your boyfriend and ask him rather than making a thread.
 

Jager

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 12, 2019
Messages
238
Reaction score
278
Age
35
You may go now.
 

Spaz

Banned
Joined
Jan 14, 2018
Messages
8,329
Reaction score
6,875
A gentleman that's articulate, well mannered, successful, has presence, a large sphere of influence, educated, positive minded, etc etc but beneath all that lies that ever present masculine strength of aggressiveness, dominance, hunger, ambition, daring, dismissive attitude, arrogance, superiority etc.

In other words, he is both an angel and a demon all rolled into one, with the ability to call forth either one at will.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

Jager

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 12, 2019
Messages
238
Reaction score
278
Age
35
A gentleman that's articulate, well mannered, successful, has presence, a large sphere of influence, educated, positive minded, etc etc but beneath all that lies that ever present masculine strength of aggressiveness, dominance, hunger, ambition, daring, dismissive attitude, arrogance, superiority etc.

In other words, he is both an angel and a demon all rolled into one, with the ability to call forth either one at will.
I see. I’ve thought of something similar in the past. I keep getting the impression that this mystery of masculinity isn’t a mystery at all. Like a forgotten skill. I’ll think with your definition for a while, see what I come up with. ‘Preciate it, man.
 

Spaz

Banned
Joined
Jan 14, 2018
Messages
8,329
Reaction score
6,875
I forgot to put in visionary. That one is important.
 

Jager

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 12, 2019
Messages
238
Reaction score
278
Age
35
I forgot to put in visionary. That one is important.
Man, some of this stuff a man wouldn’t even be able to realize until he pulls his head out of the sand. I’ll ponder this, not as a matter of questioning it, but as something I need to be reminded of.
 

Spaz

Banned
Joined
Jan 14, 2018
Messages
8,329
Reaction score
6,875
Man, some of this stuff a man wouldn’t even be able to realize until he pulls his head out of the sand. I’ll ponder this, not as a matter of questioning it, but as something I need to be reminded of.
No worries man, welcome to the forum.

Question everyone and everything to benefit yourself, and come out with the right mindset to suit ur personality.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Epic Days

Banned
Joined
May 7, 2019
Messages
1,869
Reaction score
1,643
Age
42
I once listened to my favorite album, but then deleted it upon realizing music was bluepill and about loving a woman.
I had a phone full of useless music. I completely refused to listen to it.
 

MadMan

Banned
Joined
Jun 10, 2019
Messages
83
Reaction score
53
Age
39
I had a phone full of useless music. I completely refused to listen to it.
Considering whether to read reddit, watch more videos about hypergamy, or read one of the various sets of rules about Poon/Women/ Relationships and how Im supposed to think/feel/act. Really grateful for the manosphere and how Independent and HIGH VALUE its made me as a Man.
 

Epic Days

Banned
Joined
May 7, 2019
Messages
1,869
Reaction score
1,643
Age
42
Considering whether to read reddit, watch more videos about hypergamy, or read one of the various sets of rules about Poon/Women/ Relationships and how Im supposed to think/feel/act. Really grateful for the manosphere and how Independent and HIGH VALUE its made me as a Man.
You first. In everything. Women are a really fun side dish. Nothing more. Nothing less.
 

highSpeed

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 20, 2011
Messages
1,022
Reaction score
896
You first. In everything. Women are a really fun side dish. Nothing more. Nothing less.
If only I had realized this years ago, if only. I had the wrong perspective in life. Chase excellence, not women. This one comment alone, had I adopted it much earlier in life, say 20 years ago, would have completely changed my life for the better. I really wish my father had been a mentor to me. As it is, I've literally drastically downgraded the quality of my life by doing the exact opposite of that statement. I'm still successful and working on blowing sh*t up literally this year but I'm still chained to someone who pretty much loathes my existence and puts up with me only because of the resources I provide. Completely different person than the person I was dating. It's like that Tesla song, sleeping with an angel, woke up with a monster.
 

Epic Days

Banned
Joined
May 7, 2019
Messages
1,869
Reaction score
1,643
Age
42
If only I had realized this years ago, if only. I had the wrong perspective in life. Chase excellence, not women. This one comment alone, had I adopted it much earlier in life, say 20 years ago, would have completely changed my life for the better. I really wish my father had been a mentor to me. As it is, I've literally drastically downgraded the quality of my life by doing the exact opposite of that statement. I'm still successful and working on blowing sh*t up literally this year but I'm still chained to someone who pretty much loathes my existence and puts up with me only because of the resources I provide. Completely different person than the person I was dating. It's like that Tesla song, sleeping with an angel, woke up with a monster.
This is so common amongst married men that it is scary. Same with me. Same with every married guy I have ever talked to.

His slow disintegration is almost inevitable.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Top