"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've been to a few parties, and I've been outside sarging. However, my BIGGEST question has been gnawing my brain for months. With the answer to my question, I can finally become a true DJ.

How does one spark a girl's sexual interest me within a limited amount of time? I approach a girl, and I can talk. I've lost the fear in "the approach." I can talk, but it's hard to establish an interest.

Perhaps my conversation skills are weak. Perhaps not. What is my problem? How can I "open" up a chick? I'm a good looking guy. I dress well. How do I get to the point when I can lay my arm around a girl I just met and pin her against the wall as I kiss her? How do I get her to want me?

I was at a party a few nights ago. I was quite drunk. I noticed this guy just lean in to kiss a chick when the girl asked him to move inside - she wanted to dance, I think. So, what the fvck? How can I get to do that?

This is an answer we are all seeking. Can someone give me the tools necessary to crack this code - or perhaps, the answer itself. I want to be the guy who gets the girl he notices at the party. I'm tired of being the guy who looks at the chick, knowing that he won't get any from her. I want to go up to her with a confident smile, say the right things, and have her think how much she just wants to kiss me.

Advice/Help please.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When you meet a girl, its looks that counts. Thats where her interest comes from. Now, this doesnt mean genetic looks. Do you think shes really making a connection with you with all that loud music and the fact that she really just wants the attention?

You sound like you just moved to NYC. YOu have to tell me what part of NYC youre talking about. Ive lived in qns, bx, bk, and that type of **** doesnt go down at parties. What the hell are you expecting to happen with a girl you just met? Think about it for a second, its a dark room, youre a stranger, why would she want to kiss you? Maybe shell wanna give you her # after you talk to her a little. But here thats also a little hard.

If youre with that Upper East Side/Upper West Side manhattan crowd thats a whole different story. I dont know what goes down in those preppy type crowd parties.

But you sound like you dont know how to talk to women. Theres no magic formula anyone can give you so you can be a player. You have to find your own mack. That takes time like 2 - 5 years.
 
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Talk -> subtle kino -> not-so subtle kino -> sexual kino -> kiss
 
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Maybe go after chicks that are already drunk? They always want a shoulder to lean on. Just don't let her puke on your shirt.
Seriously, a little alcohol can help.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You could also befriend some of the guys that know 'how to crack the code' and learn from them.
 
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JHeights83rd said:
When you meet a girl, its looks that counts. Thats where her interest comes from. Now, this doesnt mean genetic looks. Do you think shes really making a connection with you with all that loud music and the fact that she really just wants the attention?

You sound like you just moved to NYC. YOu have to tell me what part of NYC youre talking about. Ive lived in qns, bx, bk, and that type of **** doesnt go down at parties. What the hell are you expecting to happen with a girl you just met? Think about it for a second, its a dark room, youre a stranger, why would she want to kiss you? Maybe shell wanna give you her # after you talk to her a little. But here thats also a little hard.

If youre with that Upper East Side/Upper West Side manhattan crowd thats a whole different story. I dont know what goes down in those preppy type crowd parties.

But you sound like you dont know how to talk to women. Theres no magic formula anyone can give you so you can be a player. You have to find your own mack. That takes time like 2 - 5 years.
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I hang out with the preppy type of people - Upper East Side, you guessed it!

I can easily talk to women, but I don't know if it leads to anything? Perhaps, I cover myself in doubt while I'm alone, but I preform better when in the situation calls for it. I'm not that successful, but I can hold my ground - I believe.

ThreeStorms said:
You could also befriend some of the guys that know 'how to crack the code' and learn from them.
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I'll try that.
 
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