"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sparking Attraction

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Well, I notice I have the most difficulty with sparking the attraction in a girl. Once I get it going it just flows naturally and it's easy amplifieing.
But I really have to improve in sparking the attraction cause as most of us know. If you don't spark it early, chances are slim you're going to spark it later and then you'll go straight into hell (which sucks btw). I know about the whole body language thing and have no problems with it and I'm not nervous. I just need some good ways to SPARK. Any ideas?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Being ****y and funny is the ultimate tool for attraction. It shows her that you're a fun guy but that you're also confident. Being busy and frequently unavailable helps too. Shows her you have a life and that your world keeps turning with or without her.
 

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The attraction is either there or not, right from the beginning in one way or another (or several ways). You just have not do something that turns her off.
 

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Well for starters, heres a few tips for attraction, you say you know body language but it looks like u don't know it as well as u say you do

1/ for starters let her do most if not all of the talkn
2/ tilt head slightly while listening, only like 10 degrees
3/ have eyes fixated on her eyes, and slightly closed roughly 10%
- do not look away before she does, she will away then back at you then it would be ok to glance away for a few seconds, but keep eye contact high, roughly 75% to 90% of the time
4/ lots of hand movements, that reveal palms or open gestures
5/ touch her, kino,
6/ make her laugh, give her crap, tease her on little things, call her ugly
7/ cant think of anything its 5am, and i gotta go fishing with the gf and brother in half an hr


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Originally posted by tmpgstx
The attraction is either there or not, right from the beginning in one way or another (or several ways). You just have not do something that turns her off.

That's probably not what you want to hear, but it is the truth!

If you want to spark attraction in women, you have to become an attractive person.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yeah yeah, I know. C&F are good for AMPLIFYING the attraction present.

Being busy and frequently unavailable helps too
I'm talking sparking attraction when you meet her somewhere/or are in her company.

you say you know body language but it looks like u don't know it as well as u say you do
I use this kind of Body Language:
-always leaned back
-slow movement when reaching for anything
-ALWAYS keep the eye contact the longest
-Chest up

What I lack sometimes is something that gets the ball rolling. Sometimes it happens, but sometimes it doesn't and I'd like to have some more control over that.
 

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There is nothing more powerful in terms of body language than looking into her eyes and smiling geniunely (not forced or scripted). If you really like her, it will come naturally. If she likes you, she'll recipocate.

It's more important to read her body language also. If she glances away alot and her eye contact is fleeting, then she has no attraction to you. Keep in mind, everyone has different body language also.

The kino stuff is childish and for playground type of stuff back in elementary school. Let her touch you first, before touching her at all.
 
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