SoSuave's I'M DRUNK Thread

[Purefilth]

Damn, that gives me fvcking motivation for the future...Dude you are such a buzzkill!

Are you telling me that women in their 20's are nearly off limits for men in their late 30's? Jesus christ, if that's the case, I'm dedicating myself to going out 8 nights a week!

BDJ! CHILL!!

I know a 25yr old model who's getting herself laid by herYoga instructor.

The dude looks like he's about 45 +.

Hope for you there is yet.

 

[BeDJ]

EDIT: Not a good idea

You have a point about the ex, occasionally when I drink and on SoSuave, I can't help think how I wouldn't have came back if it weren't for her.

I wrote this 2 weeks into dating her:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=130647

This site was a PUA forum to me back then, but now I look back, Most of the theories here applied to my previous LTR. SoSuave was The Oracle.

It took time and much pain to go deeper and see the relationship for what it was. All I have left from that LTR are lessons - no memories, no emotions, no faces. Almost as if that relationship never even happened. I am a much more stoic, apathetic and hard-boiled compared to 5 years ago. In my drunken state, when my guard is down, I try to find that AFC in me. That little guy who fell in love for the first time and try to feeeeeeeel. That bastard's getting much harder and harder to find.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

BDJ, It seems to me you're relating having feelings for a girl to being an AFC. Then what do you do when these natural feelings come up? Try to bury them back down, self medicate with booze and ONS's. It's a temporary solution. How do you feel the next day when that HB6 is laying in you bed? Are you happy that you just slayed some new poon? Or are you depressed because you're comparing her to your ex?

Having feelings for a woman is not AFC. Having feelings is human. Are you a sociopath? They're the only type of people that I know that don't have feelings....no matter what some of these veterans on here will tell you.


Are you worried about dating an HB8 because of your fear of having those feelings again? Scared of what could happen, the damage she could do to you? But are you a different man now than you were back then? More knowledgeable in the ways of women? More mature? More in control? You've come along way from the old BDJ.

How you react to these feelings is what makes you who you are. Take it easy on yourself. Don't relate your ex to everything that's bad in this world, that won't help. An old wise man once said that your first love will always have a small piece of your heart. Acceptance, then closure. Then you'll be free to move on.

 

[BeDJ]

I may have developed a degree of indifference over the past year that prevents or represses the chemical hormones of having feelings for a girl. I am repulsed by the idea and feelings of monogamy. It might be the negative conditioning from my LTR. I wasn't mentally or emotional prepared to handle living with a woman for 4 years and the aftermath that ensued.

- Jealousy and insecurity of losing her to another man
- Repressing the anger I felt for her
- Lies I told to make her jealous stemming from my insecurities
- Devaluing my own self respect to be with her
- Constant need of reassurance she still loved me

Towards the end

- Occasional thoughts of suicide
- Alcohol dependency
- Sleeping in my car
- Taking a hammer to every gift we gave each other
- Crying to her brother

I wasn't mature enough to handle a live-in relationship of that caliber (talks of marriage.) I kept in contact a year after we broke up, seeing each other monthly even though we lived 5 hours apart. One day, I was unpacking boxes to my new place...it was my 5th move within the past year, I found a random SD card. I remember taking 2 shots of Crown Royal because I had a feeling. There were photos of my ex, making out with 3 different guys when she went home to visit her parents. 2 weeks before we broke up.

I woke up the next morning, destined get the greatest revenge on my ex the world had ever seen. I changed my number, deleted Facebook and signed up for a gym membership. 6 months later, 40 pounds lighter and living in a new city, a familiar voice said - 'Hey BDJ!' I responded, 'Sorry, you have the wrong person.' Not giving my ex a second look, I turned around a walked away.

It's not that I am scared to get hurt again by having feelings. I'm not comparing my ex to anyone and no longer has any impact on my life. Well, maybe when I'm drunk and want to indulge on AFC pleasures. It's a good feeling once in a while, but I wake up with the worst cringe ever. You can say I no longer have compassion. I have banged dudes' GFs without feeling guilt or remorse, even when I put myself in his shoes. I don't do things for altruistic reasons. Doing good things just to feel good isn't my ideal way to live. I might have gone too far, but I'm truly happy.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Hey man, that's quite a story. I can appreciate the energy it took for you to get that all down....hats off to ya. I've got more to say, but right now's not the best time. I'll try again tomorrow, maybe give you some insight into P&V, whether you want to hear it or not

 

[BeDJ]

Yeah?

 

[CJ 101]

I'm sitting at home with a 24 pack of Heineken, my girl's still in bed. We had a wild night yesterday. I'm so drunk right now lol.

 

[BeDJ]

Who is SoSuave.com?

 

[Purefilth]

the owner / admin

 

[BeDJ]

I wonder what his other account is.

Maybe, I'm Eskimo Brothers with a former SS forum member. How cool would it be if I posted a picture of a chick I'm dating and some guy PM's me that he fvcked her and all the red flags I should be looking out for.

 

[BeDJ]

I passed my the middle school on my way back from work. There was this girl sitting there alone, almost a dopleganger of my little sis. Tears started coming down my eyes uncontrollably. It's been at least 2 years since I've seen my little sister, I could have been a better brother. I just bought a plane ticket to see my family next week.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Do you ever lay in bed with your laptop on your lap, posting away....while you have a girl lying next to you?

 

[BeDJ]

Do you ever lay in bed with your laptop on your lap, posting away....while you have a girl lying next to you?

No, because i never ask for her WiFi password. Do you guys really lay next to a woman after sex?

I kid, your comment had me on my toes =] Of course I don't. I'm in a scatter to put on my pants and leave. If i feel I am unable to drive, I will drink myself silly to pass out and wake up the next morning.
If she was at my place, that's what I call the waiting game. Either she is sober enough to take the hint to GTFO or just getting sober enoiugh to GTFO.

I'm starting to think we may be each others' arch nemesis

BDJ......The defender of SEX

VS.

PEAKS&VALLEYS......The defender of LOVE

FIGHT!

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

If she was at my place, that's what I call the waiting game. Either she is sober enough to take the hint to GTFO or just getting sober enoiugh to GTFO.
FIGHT!

That's the thing BDJ. Sometimes they know what they're there for and they're cool with it, as soon as you're done they leave. Other times though, it's 3 in the morning and they're been drinking and there's no way they're going anywhere. You can't kick them out!

What do you do when she's at your place and you just had sex with her? What happens when she turns to her side, curls up into the blankets and gets comfortable....then lets out a sigh and goes to sleep.

What do you do??

To be honest I'm usually wide the fvck awake. Like you, I get a drink. Then I stick in a chew. Then I turn on the TV...or the 'ol laptop. I can't sleep with a strange chick in my bed that I just had sex with. I need an hour or two to digress. It's like I can't just be happy and pass out along side of her. I need a differentiation in our patterns. She goes to sleep before me, that way she'll wake up before me. Golden.

Let me tell you, if we were in love, it would be a different story! Then we could fall asleep in one anothers arms, while whispering sweet nothings into each others ears. Ah......sweet bliss....



EDIT: I should have PM'd you on this one, but I started on my tale I was going to tell...but my comp overheated and shut off. (excuses) I was getting down deep too. Just wanted to let you know I'm trying!! I'll give it another shot soon. It's not that big of a deal, but I want to get it down right. This one's difficult.

 

[BeDJ]

That's the thing BDJ. Sometimes they know what they're there for and they're cool with it, as soon as you're done they leave. Other times though, it's 3 in the morning and they're been drinking and there's no way they're going anywhere. You can't kick them out!

What do you do when she's at your place and you just had sex with her? What happens when she turns to her side, curls up into the blankets and gets comfortable....then lets out a sigh and goes to sleep.

What do you do??

To be honest I'm usually wide the fvck awake. Like you, I get a drink. Then I stick in a chew. Then I turn on the TV...or the 'ol laptop. I can't sleep with a strange chick in my bed that I just had sex with. I need an hour or two to digress. It's like I can't just be happy and pass out along side of her. I need a differentiation in our patterns. She goes to sleep before me, that way she'll wake up before me. Golden.

Let me tell you, if we were in love, it would be a different story! Then we could fall asleep in one anothers arms, while whispering sweet nothings into each others ears. Ah......sweet bliss....

That's why i pour myself a drink and entertain myself before I can kick them out. Most of them will just pass out or pretend to pass out. Nothing i can do. When I sense that she isn't waking up in an hour ot two, I take a few more shots and sleep next to her. We wake up the next morning and smile. I begin cleaning to hint GTFO or help me. A lot of the times they do and that's when I give them a warm kiss on the forehead.

Yeah, same here. After i lay a woman, I can't simply just pass out like she does. I sit down and analyze how one thing led to another. As stated above, I probably won't remember ay of it if she decides to sleep on my bed. I'm not looking for a plate or relationship, although if I play my cards right, she would come over again for only sex. Most of the time, that's not the case. I love the thrill of the hunt, anything afterward is just picking meat off a dead carcass.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Whoa dude, did you just change your name? how the fvck did that happen??

Better fit though my friend.

 

[BeDJ]

I made a Tamarind shot tonight. For those of you that don't know it's sour, salty and sweet. Very similar to the seasoning in PAD THAI.

Ok, here goes my little secret -

1) Bourbon whiskey
2) Tonic water
3) Sex*

*Not guaranteed, I'm figuring out drinks on getting you guys laid, go figure. CELIBACY 2012!

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

I made a Tamarind shot tonight. For those of you that don't know it's sour, salty and sweet. Very similar to the seasoning in PAD THAI.

Ok, here goes my little secret -

1) Bourbon whiskey
2) Tonic water
3) Sex*

*Not guaranteed, I'm figuring out drinks on getting you guys laid, go figure. CELIBACY 2012!

Nice try son.

I'll let you in on a little secret, anyone who does any gay a$$ shots with a bunch of mixed ingredients.....is a chick. Included in that demographic of shots is a "fireball". (had a few today, ordered by someone else

Just order a shot of Jamo or Casedores.

You're golden.

Don't say I never told you anything.

 

[BeDJ]

Haha, you're right. Tequilla is like the Aphrodisiac of liquor. I made a drink when I was 19, fvcking nearly 6 years ago.

Half cup of Sunny Delight
Quarter cup of Powerade mountain blast (the blue one)
Any typre of liquor.

The end result is a green drink. My first time making it for a girl, she asked me what I called it. I was unsure. She said THE FOUR LEAF CLOVER. I asked her why???? She said - when you drink it, you get lucky.

I've introduced to a friend and he still makes it to this day. TGhe 4 leaf clover.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

She said THE FOUR LEAF CLOVER. I asked her why???? She said - when you drink it, you get lucky.

Never heard of that one....

This is money BDJ. Pure money.