"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Sosuave Memories!

Desdinova

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I'll admit that I'm a history buff when it comes to things that interest me. One of those things is sosuave, which had a profound effect on my life, and the quality of it.

To the best of my knowledge, sosuave.com has been around since April 2000. It has exploded into a fantastic place. Many boys who never grew up finally did after finding this place. They were not only able to get their issues with the opposite sex fixed up, but they were also able to do a lot of much needed repairs on themselves. I was one of those people who, thanks to this site, began the adventurous journey of self-improvement back in 2001. In the last five years, I've seen many memorable (and not so memorable) members come through here. So here, I present some sosuave memories that give a bit of a history on the site and some of the people who have contributed. For any "old-timers" who want to contribute to this thread, please do!

Back when I originally joined sosuave (late 2001), the Bootcamp didn't exist, and the DJ Bible was obviously new since most of the posts in the tips forum were in the Bible. The posts in DJ Discussion wouldn't move for hours at a time since the membership wasn't very large. There couldn't be any "NEED HELP ASAP" posts since it could take hours to get a response.

The forum colors were tan, gray, and black. According to a post once made by Pook, there used to be a "white forum" that existed before the tan one, but I haven't been able to verify this.


The original DJ Bible (and forum colors)

Other forums that were eliminated:
Unusual Techniques in Seduction (Speed Seduction Forum)
Suggestions & Feedback
Success Stories

The first mass troll attack (Feb 18, 2003)

First registered user (besides Allen):
Krynnster

First registered user to be banned:
Smitty

User with the most posts (as of 09/02/2006)
Wyldfire

Wyldfire had a previous account (Wildfire) which she never used.

Registered user (not banned) with the most unpronounceable name:
Πovoς

Runner up with the most unpronounceable name:
|50|2|)

Oldest user who is still active on sosuave:
disciple

First sosuave graduate to get married:
Panzergrenadier

Pook Impersonators:
Pook.
Poök (aka "Fake Pook")
Pookalicious
Pooki

The First Moderators:
Hidden-Danjer
mellow mel
G
Krynnster
Cecil

Did You Know?

The Mature Man forum existed back in the early days of Sosuave, and the minimum age limit for the forum was 23 instead of 25? It was eliminated due to few postings, but was resurrected March 16, 2004.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Woa the orignal DJ Bible still exists? I remember when it wasn't even a separate link, it was just Neophyte's idea and a thread :)
 

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These are memories i'm unfortunate enough not to have :(
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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first two sosuave members to get married
penkitten and giovanni casanova
 

Void

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other sosuave members to get married: Eternal and uhh whats her name ..
 

wavejams007

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Another great fact. Wavejams007 was the first to use the username, wavejams007. woo hoo. Go me.

sorry, I know, waste of time, but I felt like getting mentioned.
 

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hehe... cute thread.... *group hug* :D


Laterz...
 

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first two sosuave members to get married
penkitten and giovanni casanova
Yeah, I forgot about that one. Also...

Sosuave Fun Fact #26: Giovanni Casanova was engaged once before he met Penkitten (at least once before on sosuave anyway)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Climax

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Desdinova said:
Yeah, I forgot about that one. Also...

Sosuave Fun Fact #26: Giovanni Casanova was engaged once before he met Penkitten (at least once before on sosuave anyway)
Desdinova: here is another fun fact for you: Kiss my ass! .. hehe joking... Who was Giovanni Casanova engaged to on Sosuave before Kitten?


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Giovanni Casanova

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~ªêQµïTª$~ said:
Who was Giovanni Casanova engaged to on Sosuave before Kitten?
Lucifer.
 

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To correct a few things:

Desdinova: Other forums to be hacked away:

- Bars and Clubs
- Humor

Void: Her name is Fist_Of_Fury, and stop putting ideas in her head...

Gio: I don't think it was Lucifer...I just think she was "Satan."

Other sosuave fun facts:

Longest reigning moderator: Paradox

Second Administrator: That is right, there is another registered username as an admin..."Allen Thompson."

Shortest reigning moderator: Mr.Blue1280. Became a mod, then kicked ou ta few days later for harassment.

First HS Bible run by: Lorenzo

First admitted female member: G. That is right, there was a female mod.

First person to be mistaken for a female: Ashlee_Angel.
 

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Diablo's original account: [T]he ishop

Really screwed with the quoting feature.
 

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Thanks for adding to the thread, Eternal! I completely forgot about the Bars & Clubs forum, but I don't remember the Humour one. Possibly pre-dates me.

I also didn't know there was a female moderator. Learn something new everyday!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Fun fact: Diablo was banned before he became a moderator.
 

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fun fact: Diablo was the first person to post "interesting" pictures of women.
 

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Humor wasn't around a long time. If you check the archives that Deep Dish pointed out, you might get to see it in a few sections.

Fun Fact: Neanderthal Supersolider is the only person to have been a moderator and to now be banned (at his own request.)
 

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And by the way, if you're talking about any kind of real rapport, as opposed to the pseudo-rapport which is the aim of speed seduction, you can have it one of two ways: strong and lasting raport gradually over time, or weak and fleeting rapport quickly. Or, going back to the whole half-elf thing, you can use your Skull Cap of Charm which gives you a +6 CHARISMA and instant strong rapport with women.

- Giovanni Casanova, the moderator
Classic... :up:
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Classic... :up:
I wondered if anyone noticed my sig :)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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