Ok, I understand where you're coming from
Deadly_Assassin said:
Looks like we have an AFC girl on our hands?
Ever thought that she might be so desperate because you are living in Canada? I am Indian living in NZ and I know plenty of Indian women who would do anything to settle overseas. Moving overseas is seen as being successful. Marrying an overseas guy and moving overseas with him is even better.
Shaadi.com? You are living in Canada and you say you are good looking. I am sure there are plenty of good looking Canadian Indians around.
But lets examine this closer from my perspective..
How I was Two years ago
*I'd give myself rating of 5/10, as I didn't have good grooming, used to wear glasses...
*I didn't know the meaning of Confidence
*Very Strong Social anxiety
*Can not make eye contact, and very few friends, with poor conversation skills..
*Very few activities involved in
How I am today....
*I'd give myself rating of 8.5/10, as glasses are gone, and I'm usually the most distinguished and well groomed person on any venues, I always hear praises from everyone I meet about the turn around..
*I've joined all kind of dance lessons, sports activities, and university clubs to get out of shyness, and make more friends, and expand on my social network, my biggest weakness became focal point for my success..
*I recognize the biggest strength of mine was high energy, and capitalized on it by freely expressing my playful nature without any consideration for validation or approval..
* I joined and learned from most of seduction gurus and forums, I've gone through countless audio, video and e-book programs dealing with communication, meditation, alpha skills, spirituality, leadership, NLP, SS, playful and many many other skills...
How I see the world today...
No matter how far I've taken myself, I still see my other cousins still stuck where I was two years ago, and no way of getting out despite having high paying job, house and car under their belt, somehow getting all the material success didn't make them transform themselves..
So today, I am 26, and my oldest cousin is 35, who still hasn't found that special someone, and he's born in Canada, and I have other cousins in the same boat having all the material success but almost no love life, and are draining themselves with work...
I went back to India just three months ago to test out the hypothesis you mentioned about girls wanting to come to canada at any cost, and its true to a degree, but lets look at closer from my perspective..
What I learned back there
* Girls are highly educated, and traditional by nature
* Very high career aspirations
*Family oriented
* Girls groomed for westernized marriages are taught western lifestyle, and expectation..
*They get married by the time they get to age 21, so AFC all the way as you said, as they are watched by all their relatives very closely, so hard to get into short, or long term relationships; still, this could be good as they are open to change if you give them chance...
My Expectation
* She has to be open to new experiences, and understanding that its not about settling scores and getting ahead in marriage, as marriage requires deeper devotion and effort from both couples..
* She has to accept self improvement approach, just as me thats the only way she'll be able to understand where I'm coming from, and be able to walk with me wherever I go..
* Want educated girl who can walk along with me, She has to shine on her own terms without me having to defend or praise for her, and I'd like to be able and proud to call her my wife, as she has to exude that extra confidence..
* She has to be someone I can count on bad days, as thats when the power of true relationship is tested..
I can probably say That I'm better, smarter and well groomed then the next person I meet especially someone coming from developing countries like India, but that would mean that I've allowed arrogance to define how I perceive others, and that something I hate to do.
As I see each and every individual with boundless possibility, and the only deciding factor for me is how much they respect themselves, and are dedicated to improving themselves, as in a sense we're all work in progress no matter how far we get ahead in life, work or spirituality..
I can probably write more but so far this aspects have lead me to do the things that I do, as they say every person lives through unique experiences that define their expectation of themselves and others around them..
