"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Sorry guys, im a bit confused and im sure other guys are too

DJnoob

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I'm hearing/reading/feeling you can go on dates to see if you can have a relationship with a woman then **** her?

I'm hearing/reading/feeling you can go on a date and just **** her THEN have a relationship?

How does it go these days really in the US?

1. Fuak first, then date, then have relationship?
2. Date, then Fuak
3. Date, have relationship, then Fuak?
4. Just fuack (no dinner, no activities, just go bar and go somewhere to fuack), no relationship, still see each other just to fuack (not dating)?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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dude99

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I'm hearing/reading/feeling you can go on dates to see if you can have a relationship with a woman then **** her?

I'm hearing/reading/feeling you can go on a date and just **** her THEN have a relationship?

How does it go these days really in the US?

1. Fuak first, then date, then have relationship?
2. Date, then Fuak
3. Date, have relationship, then Fuak?
4. Just fuack (no dinner, no activities, just go bar and go somewhere to fuack), no relationship, still see each other just to fuack (not dating)?

1. She follows your lead. She submits to your lead or next
 

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It goes like this....."a women who gives up the sex too easily loses value in the eyes of others, likewise a man who gives away his commitment too easily loses value in the eyes of others"

Go with the flow, have fun......forget even thinking about a relationship.........even if you're desperate for one (for some reason) keep it to yourself, shut up talking about the future, let her try and nail you down.......if you do ever go down the relationship route.....it's always better and will always be stronger if it was her idea......

....she wants the fun of unravelling you, she wants the fun of chasing you and trying to be the one to cage you......why would you deny her this subtle dance that she so desperately craves......
 

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...likewise a man who gives away his commitment too easily loses value in the eyes of others"
I think this is very telling. If a DJ reveals his commitment hand too early she'll be suspicious and wonder why behind the scenes or after the date is over and she has time to think... more importantly, he needs to seriously question himself wtf why!?

-Does he have a scarcity mindset?
-Is he not plate spinning enough to create an environment for abundance?
-Does he think he found a unicorn? (Hint: that answer is most likely a resounding no)
-Does he have low self-esteem?
-Does he have dread of abandonment?

The power dynamic shifts to the direction of her wind. She'll know it and jump start sh!t tests if she hasn't already and/or open her book for the monkey branch jumping business (most likely already starting hitting up her orbiters or in beginning stages). The o-so telling games of hot/cold, distancing, flaking behavior, missed call, or not returning texts. The guy can kiss self-respect good-bye. o_O

On a lighter note of omission, I've field-tested this and would not recommend giving away commitment too fvcking early. :p Stay DJ-chase worthy my friends. Make the plate work and she can sweat the competition.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You sleep with her first then the relationship. She has to give in and then get the perks. If she gets the perks and then decides to give in when she wants to, you got no leverage in the relationship. And we all know how well men without leverage do. ;)
 
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